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Being Reconciled after Adultery

Discussion in '2004 Archive' started by Ben W, Jul 31, 2004.

  1. Ben W

    Ben W Active Member
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    Sep 16, 2002
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    We seem to have a thread hammering away at how divorce for whatever reason is sinfull and people should not get divorced and should in fact seek to be reconciled. The point seems to be comming across to me that God does in fact not approve of Divorce and that it is sin to have divorces and remarry as people feel like it.

    Matthew 5:32 "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except Sexual Immorality causes her to commit adultery -"

    What I see here is that if you divorce your wife for Sexual Immorality, you have not caused her to commit adultery, beacause she has done it to herself already.

    So then, should we seek to go to reconcilliation rather than divorce? Can we reconcile over stuff like this? Is the betrayal to much to continue the relationship? Yet is it the teaching of Christianity that Forgiveness of Sin from God can cover this and resultingly we should have the same attitude of forgiveness?
  2. dianetavegia

    dianetavegia Guest

    As Christian's, we commit adultery toward God every time we put anyone or anything ahead of Him.

    The whole book of Hosea says it best but here's the outcome....

    Hosea 14:
    1 O Israel, return to the Lord your God, For you have stumbled because of your iniquity; 2 Take words with you, And return to the Lord. Say to Him, "Take away all iniquity; Receive us graciously, For we will offer the sacrifices of our lips. 3 Assyria shall not save us, We will not ride on horses, Nor will we say anymore to the work of our hands, 'You are our gods.' For in You the fatherless finds mercy."

    4 "I will heal their backsliding, I will love them freely, For My anger has turned away from him. 5 I will be like the dew to Israel; He shall grow like the lily, And lengthen his roots like Lebanon. 6 His branches shall spread; His beauty shall be like an olive tree, And his fragrance like Lebanon. 7 Those who dwell under his shadow shall return; They shall be revived like grain, And grow like a vine. Their scent shall be like the wine of Lebanon.

    8 "Ephraim shall say, 'What have I to do anymore with idols?' I have heard and observed him. I am like a green cypress tree; Your fruit is found in Me." 9 Who is wise? Let him understand these things. Who is prudent? Let him know them. For the ways of the Lord are right; The righteous walk in them, But transgressors stumble in them.

    Jesus said: Matthew 18: 21 Then Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" 22 Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

    A PATTERN of adultery is different than a failing and a repentent heart. I believe we are commanded to forgive an adulterous spouse if they are repentent, just as God forgives us.

  3. GODzThunder

    GODzThunder New Member

    Jul 1, 2003
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    The Bible tells us in mark 3:28-29 that all sins are (to be) forgiven (to the truly repentant) except for blasphemy of the Spirit.

    This includes adultery. If God forgives them of their sin then who are we to hold grudges? Are we better than God???
  4. Artimaeus

    Artimaeus Active Member

    Nov 30, 2002
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    If God can forgive me then, what's a little adultery. Ok, it would be a big deal but not unreasonable for God to expect it of me.
  5. menageriekeeper

    menageriekeeper Active Member

    Feb 20, 2004
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    Yes it is possible to forgive a spouse for adultry.....but it is not easy. You really have to be trusting God that it is the right thing to do and that He will be with you through it.....and then it is still not easy. It is also very hard to be able to truely trust your spouse again.

    And the spouse has to want reconciliation. Without that there is nothing to be done but divorce.
  6. Johnv

    Johnv New Member

    Oct 24, 2001
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    Those are good questions. Sffice it to say there are no easy answers. If one believes that they can renew and repair the severed covenant, they're cetainly free to. I'm sure God delights in this. I believe that eveyone in this situation should at least try. When the attempts fail due to the sin of the adulterer, the remaining spouse is not wrong to pursue a divorce, especially if he/she would be in a position of becoming an enabler to the sin.