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Birthday celebrations for the stillborn

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by Aaron, Sep 18, 2014.

  1. Aaron

    Aaron Member
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    I don't mean shortly after the delivery, I mean a year late. Does that sound hokey? Real question.
     
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    I could not judge someone who lost a child. Time makes it easier, but it never gets better.
     
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    I don't think it's wrong to celebrate a life that was lost. But if it's a regular birthday party with balloons and cake and stuff that they do every year, I do think it's a little weird. I have friends who did a little quiet memorial thing in their own home with the immediate family for the first birthday of their daughter. No balloons, just one little cupcake. It was a sweet time to remember little Elizabeth who never breathed (she died at 39 weeks, 4 days due to a cord accident). They only did that on her first birthday.
     
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    Celebrating the birthday of a dead child or relative is not something common in my family. I can feel their grief. We lost two children prior to birth. The pain is definitely real. I love them as much as I love the two children I have with me. Their deaths permanently scarred me. I will never forget them or "get over it." They will always be a reality in my life and will never be forgotten.
     
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    I've never lost a child so I can't put myself in the position of the grieving parents. The loss of a child is life changing for everyone involved. In 22 years of ministry I have been called on seven times for child funerals. I visit the graves of each of them on the date of their death. I can't explain why but something compels me to go. I send a card to the family, call or stop by for a few minutes. Mom and Dad never have to ask why I'm there.

    Having a cake with candles and singing Happy Birthday might seem a little weird but, again, I've never lost a child.
     
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    Well did this child hear & understand the gospel & claim Christ as their Lord & Savior?
     
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    We never did that with our daughter. We visit her grave from time to time. Sad really. We clean her grave off, too.....that's a parenting thing. If she were alive, she'd be 9 years old. My heart ACHES for people who lose a child. I hate hearing it.
     
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    Be assured, she rests in the arms of Christ....for eternity. And I believe you will one day be with her again. Until that day, be strong.

    GOD BLESS.....:godisgood:
     
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