First Names

That's not my name! =) LOL Well, if that's what their parents make them call me, I have to deal with it, I just said I can't stand it, I don't like it at all. With the kids at church it's usually "Miss Jennifer" which doesn't make me cringe quite as much as Mrs. mylastname.

 

I have 9 nieces and nephews on my husband's side and they have never called me "Aunt" always just Jennifer. Most of my oldest daughter's friends just call me mom.

 

You mean you're not going to do like Jimmy Rollins did and call him "Dog"?

 

I TOTALLY agree with you.. my boys call people by what they want called...
I grew up calling my grandparents, Grandma, Grandpa, papaw, mamaw.. Some Aunts and Uncles I add the title "Aunt" or "Uncle".. others I don't.

The only people I had to call Mr. and Mrs. to was my teachers..
and now I am friends on facebook with one of my favorite teachers, and I still call her Mrs. C. But she doesn't mind if I call her Diana.

I ABSOLUTELY hate it when someone calls me MR. or Sir.. I am Tim.
When people call me Mr. I politely let them know I prefer to go by the name mom gave me... Tim. I don't like Rev. If they have to, "Pastor Tim" works.

I want to be personal to people.. not hide behind man made name barriers.

And I think it's ubsurd to call a woman "Mrs" then the name of her husband...
For example Lucille Ball being called "Mrs Ricky Ricardo" on "I Love Lucy"

Men do not own women, and the women can be called by their own names...

 

Aww.. come on I dare you.. I DOUBLE DOG dare you DR. Bob!... :laugh::laugh:

 

I don't see why people have such a problem with titles like Mr. or Miss. What's the deal? It's just good manners to address an elder in such a way. I was taught growing up that I was to respect my elders. Now, some will tell me not to call them Mr. or Mrs. or whatever, but I still end up doing it out of habit. I still say yes ma'am and yes sir to older individuals, even those I preach to. I'm going to teach my son to do the same. I don't get mad when a kid addresses me without a sir or a mr., but I also don't get mad when they do. It's not a barrier, it's called good manners. They are trying to show respect and do as their parents taught them, and I don't believe I should try to undermine that.

I will not like it if someone calls me reverand though, that's a name reserved for God in my book.

 

When They Are...

.... given permission by that adult, or, in an adult's case, by their peer.

I was allowed to address several medical doctors by their first name, when I worked with them in vocational rehabilitation.

However, they made it clear, that when we were in the public arena of life, it was Dr. "so-in-so".

So, to keep me from slipping, I always gave them the respect of their field.

Hope this helps.

Pastor Paul

 

Never unless the person is the same age or younger, or the older person specifically address the issue.

Years ago when I taught a group of men who were my grandmother's age at the time always called me "teacher". They did that even when I told them to just call me by my first name. They were taught respect for the teacher and we unable to "violate" that in their own minds.

 

Only When....

....the adult in question, gives the child or person that right. To most people, I am either Pastor Paul or Paul. However, to some, I am still Mr. Zimmer. I choose who will call me what by how comfortable I feel with them as a person.

And sometimes, especially when I'm teaching a junior college class, or adult education class, Mr. Z is a term of respect. I may not like it, or even feel comfortable with it, but there are times we deserve the respect of our position in life.

I usually tell most folks that ""mr. Zimmer was my father" so they can call me "Paul!" :wavey:

 

Years ago, in the South, (NC) the locals would refer to a married woman (Mrs.) by pronouncing it as Miz-ress. I always got a chuckle out of that when I heard it. :laugh:

Otherwise, I always referred to my peers as Mr. or Mrs. Still do.

 

Ditto. Kind of like when is it NOT acceptable for a young person to say "ma'am" or "sir". Our current culture is deluged with a lack of respect.