I have an Issue!! Your advices would be greatly appreciatted!!!

Wow, tough one. I will say my daughter is everything to me so if it means hurting my brothers feelings then so be it. I would hope he understands if you explain it to him.

I would say uncle Billy has a roommate but unfortunately, same sex couples will be very common when your daughter get's to school.

 

I agree with LeBuick -

If your brother can not bring himself to see your daughter through the eyes of a father wanting to provide safety to his child - then maybe it is best if you limit your "family outings" such that you are only with your brother when your child can be at a friend's home or with your wife at home while you visit.

In Christ,

Bob

 

My friend,

You are responsible for your family not your fathers family. This may sound harsh, sorry, but your brother has a rebrobate mind meaning he can neither store nor retrieve truth accurately. Clearly the unsaved cannot understand the spiritual truths nor spiritual concerns of a believer. Speak the truth in love and let the chips fall where they mayfor the wounds of a friend are faithful but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.



Thjplgvp

 

Brother what a terrible situation to be in. However, with that said, if you feel that there is even a chance that something could happen to your daughter then make sure she is kept out of harms way. If you brother doesn't understand that then too bad.

That doesn't mean you don't love him, but if he can not respect your desires and wishes when it comes to your daughter then there are consequences on both sides for that.

What I would recommend is to pray that you will die to self and allow the Spirit to work through your members in this situation so that the love of God will shine through and that Jesus will be seen and that your daughter will have the parental protection she needs.

Do not compromise on your concerns for safety.

 

My daughter in laws brother is homosexual, and once he wanted to come down and visit (lives about 100 miles away) the guy he wanted to bring him (not his 'partner') has aids, she told him the other guy could not come to her house (my granddaughter is 16 months). He did not come to visit that weekend. I would support your stand on this, your brother comes after your daughter and wife, then he'll just have to be hurt. Too bad he doesn't understand it has nothing to do with them being gay, but with his partner having aids, in that case it wouldn't matter if they were straight or not, aids is aids.
As a side note, not in support of the homosexual lifestyle or anything, unless he is testing his blood while he is around your daughter, then he does not have open wounds, I know becasue I also test, the close up immediately.

 

Medical advice from a Fundamentalist board is always a bad idea. Talk to someone who treats HIV/AIDS patients, and ask them.


To thjplgvp: Unless you are the Holy Spirit, you have no idea if this man's brother is reprobate.

 

Wow, you have a whole lot of issues going on. When this much is happening sometimes it helps to break things down into smaller pieces and deal with them one at a time.

The first issue is how much of a relationship you are going to continue to have with your brother. If it is going to be basically the same as before you were saved (and this decision is entirely between you and God), then you have to deal with the questions of your daughter.

Deal with it head on, as the questions come. At 2 all she's going to know is that some nice man lives in the house with her uncle and she will simply take this as how things are. When she does have questions, answer them honestly. Uncle and friend live together in a relationship that is offensive to God, but God still loves them. One day, if we love them like God loves them, maybe they will realize that what they are doing is wrong.......(head on, while also expressing what you believe and giving her a foundation to form her own beliefs).

Now, as for the aids and diabetes. I suggest you do some in depth research into aids(or more properly HIV) and into how it is passed from person to person. You can then approach your brother with your concerns and have the documentation to back up your concerns. When he knows where you are coming from he is more likely to understand that while you love him you must protect your daughter.

Then too, there are glucometers on the market that can take blood samples from a person's forearm. You/he could look into obtaining one of those if it helps alleviate your concerns. DonnA is correct though, there is very little chance of having an "open" wound from checking one's sugar. (my husband is also diabetic) I daresay that your brother loves your daughter enough to understand that she must be protected from the illness of his partner and that his partner also understands. Information is out there on how to handle casual contact with someone infected with HIV. Go do a bit of research.

It is not the worst thing in the world to be related to someone who is homosexual. Christian love, can have a lasting impact on someone living in that lifestyle.

 

Tell your brother and family your concerns for your daughter. Also in the mean time pray the Lord will open the eyes of your brother and his friend so they will turn to Jesus because Jesus is the only answer I know. :flower:

 

But if the brother's partner has aids and gives it to the brother, then even if the daughter is left at home during the visits, the girls father can still get aids and then give it to the daughter.

 

wow that was hard to say, I hope that I got that right LOL!

 

You can't catch aids like you do a cold.

There must be a transfer of bodily fluids for there to be a chance of infecton. Not likely that a casual visit is going to result in body fluids being exchanged.

 

If your brother indeed has an open sore on his hand, insist on latex gloves. If the question "why?" is asked, respond simply, "Universal precautions." Have gloves ready.

If she asks, "Who is uncle Billy living with?" I would respond, "with (man's name)." Down the road, the whole story must be told...but not to one who isn't three yet.

You have my prayers. May your witness win your brother to Christ.

 

Menageriekeeper,

Of all the comments so far, you have been the one that seem to have given thought and rationale to your response.


Talli,

I will pray for you to receive the guidence you need in this tough situation.

Jamie

 

With all due respect sir you need to read Romans 1.

Thjplgvp

 

You must not risk the health of your daughter and allow her to be exposed to dangerous substances. I would not let her in the house of your brother and his friend.

By the way I am not even so sure wether they are telling us the truth about aids.
They say that the HIV virus dies quickly when it's out of the body but I have heard a teaching on HIV from Dr.A.E. Wilder Smith who's also a christian and had a lot of titles. According to him the virus is much more stable than thought and it can also survive outside of the body for a pretty long time! Maybe you should get his book. He has a book about aids.

http://www.wildersmith.org/

 

Good idea, but God also gave us a brain. A christian also wouldn't drink poison and then pray not to be affected by it. I would under no circumstances let my child in such a dangerous environment.
Like I said it's not even sure how stable the virus really is. If the virus is stable outside of the body then it's much more dangerous than thought!
I wouldn't belittle the risk. Some talk about it as if getting aids was the most complicated thing on earth.