I need scriptural help

I completely concur with Thankful. I too was in Newlady's situation at one time. It is impossible to be all, do all, for all. Put God first in your thoughts, your teaching, attend as often as you "can" emphasis on "can". Sometimes we can but do not. A non-church attending husband is a huge mountain to deal with and anyone who has not been there cannot possibly understand. God Bless You, New Lady.

 

I completely concur with Thankful, too. I am in that situation and I know that as long as I am doing what is honoring to the Lord, that is what really matters. To me, my husband's wishes are important. And doing as he wants IS honoring to the Lord!

Amen talk so proud!
A non-church attending husband is a HUGE mountain. How honoring to the Lord is it to cause tension in our homes?

Titus 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

 

More scripture references:

Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

 

Sorry I just was remembering the last 10 or 20 blastings I recieved from Christian gals over spending time with non-Christian females. It brings chuckles to my mind

Pre-apologies for my coherence

Did your daughter say the sitter brought it up?
Maybe oh gosh Im too lazy right now to scroll up and see who posted that it might be your daughter asking because she is confused.

And we men are very straightforward - simpleminded creatures - its ya'll womenfolk that are the crazy ones.

Im not sure Im in your husbands head on this one - but I'll try and do it - since he seems to have a similar problem to me - BTW he taking anything for that breathing thing? welll whatever back to the point

Darn I have to scroll! now nuts I have to open another page - man all this work! *whew*

Simply put whether or not your husband is a Christian - not even an issue - in this case at least.

Multiple service attendance does NOT a good Christian make - but it cant hurt

He knows you are a Christian - He assumes you are devout - He thus assumes certain behaviours are thus required - ie multiple service attendance - if one is truly a Christian. Not that all three are required but a one service a week isnt necessarily his view of a good Christian; and he thinks you are. so you should according to his understanding "cultural" - be attending more services. Not necessarily dragging him along tho.

However "conflicting" with that is his appreciation for what you have done for the family and his recognition of its value.

So on the one hand He thinks you're right - yer doing a lot and cant attend services - and he appreciates what you do to a whatever extent us men can appreciate - but he has serious doubts because of his cultural or personal understanding of what a Christian is or should be, and that you're not doing it so to what extent are you committed to something?

On the third hand - a good sitter is hard to find - take it from memories of the other side's viewpoint

Simply put he's thinking yep the sitter way out of line - but she could have a valid point - and good sitters are hard to find and break in.

*humour attempt*
Also he's thinking this could be a trick question - them females like them trick questions Like does this dress make me look fat?

 

LOLOL Karen! You should see my dull kitchen floor today! I honestly DID mop it last Saturday tho. LOLOL I have a 'new attitude'. If it doesn't get done today.... it'll still be there for me to do tomorrow.

 

Whether you think someone should be in church whenever the doors open or not, Romans 14:1-4 sounds like a good passage verse for this thread.

"Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters. One man's faith allows him to eat everything, but another man, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The man who eats everything must not look down on him who does not eath, the man who does not eat everything must not condemn the man who does, for God has accept him. Who are you to judge someone else's servant?"

Originally the church wasn't at all like it is today. Ministers worked for pay in professions, and when they traveled, believers helped provide them with food and lodging. You didn't have RA's and G.A.'s and choir practice, and Sunday School and extended session, and Bible Drill, and the puppet rehershal and morning service followed by evening service with Wednesday night service. These things evolved in an effort to reach more people. Some people couldn't make a sunday morning service so their churches offered a sunday evening service. Some groups wanted to study more than one night a week, so they started fellowshipping on Wednesday, and someone else suggested they add a meal to that. Then someone wanted to do both the Wednesday bible study AND the choir practice, so choir was moved to Tuesday. And on and on it went.

I don't think God intended for anyone to neglect their family in order to please a group of Christians who should be helping uplift that family instead of judging that family.

When I look at the schedule posted, I wonder how this dear woman keeps going, and how she finds time to know her husband or her child. Is it possible to find work with shorter hours? I had to do that once.

I always wanted to be a stay-at-home-mother, but my husband wasn't so keen on that idea, and for many years, though he worked, I was the main bread-winner in our home. One day I realized that I was working 7 to 7, and some weekends, and that my children and I were not as close as I believed a godly family should be. I quit that job. It took a LOT of faith. My husband wasn't crazy about the idea that I was not going to bring home over-time-checks anymore, but I prayed about it and decided that I needed God and my kids in my life. As it was, I could barely make Sunday's, much less anything else, and since Sunday had turned into my only day off, Sundays were beginning to feel like a burden instead of a blessing, which is never how God means them to be. So I took a step out in faith - and I got a job that was listed as 8 to 5, and negotiated to 8:00 to 4:00 instead, by skipping lunch. This allowed me to take my kids to school, get to work on time, and be home when they were home. I got my weeknights back, my family back, and my church back. We didn't even notice the loss of money because when the stress from working all the time went away, I didn't miss the vacations out of town. When I was home to clean the house nightly, I didn't have to spend a fortune on cleaning products and things playing "catch up".
Eventually, the pay went up.

That first step in faith is scarey, but it was a wonderful choice for me. It put my life back in perspective.

 

The Word of God tells us in Hebrews not to forsake the assembling of ourselves together.

 

But is it really forsaking for someone in a situation like that, if they go to church when they can, honestly evaluating the situation and making the effort to be there on Sunday mornings? I don't have all the answers, but how does "What you would do if you could do, in the sight of God you've done it" apply here? (I do realize that's not in the Bible as such.)

 

Why on earth was this thread resurrected from April and May of last year??? The lady is probably not even here now.

However 'not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together' has nothing to do with attending every church function. It has to do with refusing to attend ANY church function, including services. Or Bible studies.

When there is a serious problem and a family, for one reason or another, cannot attend church for awhile, but want to, the obvious and never-applied solution is to move a small Bible study to their home for awhile, so they can be in fellowship.

 

Well said Helen.

 

Maybe I am way out of line, but I don't see what was incorrect about what the sitter said. True, she shouldn't be talking about these issues with your daughter... but she is still correct. You don't go to the services because you don't want to. You want to stay home and work on relationships there. I am not saying that this is the wrong decision, or that you should be in services if you feel God wants you to concentrate on other things. I am just saying that I don't see that what the sitter said was wrong.

 

JamesBell,

the point is not always the truth of the statement, but whether it should have been said at all in that context.

Ya don't discuss things like that with the child. You don't express your opinion on those sorts of things unless the person asks you specifically for advice or opinion. And if the child asked the sitter about it on her own, than the sitter should have just told her to ask her mom about it.


Like Helen said, I doubt this lady is even here anymore.......this first happened back in April.

 

I may be a to much of a fundamentalist but I just think we need to go with Gods word all the time, even in 2006.
Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:
25 Not forsaking the assembling{church} of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching. May God bless

 

I agree with Helen. I do hope that this problem has been solved after all these months. This woman might even be embarrassed to have this thread resurrected.

If one wants to talk about the assembly of believers worshiping together, maybe there needs to be a new thread started.

 

Hmmm weird