Marriage

Like so many they are not teachable.

 

I do not personally know of any pastor who would marry someone shacking up (that is what living as a family and not being married is). I am sure that I probably know a pastor who would tho, I just do not know which it is (I hope that there are none)

If you are following Jesus, then God's Word does forbid a saved person to marry an unsaved person. To say any different would be calling good - bad and bad-good.

 

A couple can have a lot in common, but if they don't have THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN COMMON (ie Christ), there will be trouble.

 

As a pastor I do Christian weddings which means that I only perform Christian ceremonies for Christians. For those Christians living together I will marry if they demonstrate genuine repentance and agree to live a part until the marriage date. If they can't move a part due to financial reasons then they need to get married right away. Otherwise they can go find someone else to perform the ceremony.

 

This is a very good example of calling bad - good and good - bad. The acceptance and making excuse for.

There is a huge difference in being married to an unbeliever and marrying an unbeliever. Pastors should be marrying believers. Justice of the Peace can marry the rest. It is a matter of doing what is right even if they are going to get married anyway.

2 Corinthians 6.14 states that we as believers should not be joined with unbelievers.

Every Christian should try to remedy an unbelievers circumstance, and if you love them more than you do Jesus then go ahead and marry them but I pray that a true pastor will not perform the ceremony. Let the them be joined under man's law and not ask the blessing of God who has already stated His desire in the scriptures.

For those who are already married to an unbeliever let them stay in that marriage if the unbeliever is willing to stay, in hopes that the unbeliever will find salvation by believer's witness and testimony.

For those who are not yet married but in love with an unbeliever, be patient in the Lord, but do not marry them while in their unbelief.

Bottom line----IMHO A pastor who knowingly marries a believer to an unbeliever is holding hands with the evil one.

What is next? Are we to accept abortion because they are going to do it anyway? We already have Christians who are against abortion but pro choice. They state it is a "personal choice". Just like we have some who say "marry them no matter what because they are already shacking up.

P.S. A pastor who is will not marry a couple who is shacking up together whether they have children or not, is not turning his back on them. He is showing them what the God says in His Word. How they listen to his council is up to them.

 

But you are going to have to cite for me where marriage between a believer and a non-believer is expressly forbidden.


It's called being unequally yoked and marriage is perhaps the best illustration of this practice.

 

I read and reread your thoughts, overall you are right except (IMO) when you conveniently decide it doesn't apply to the areas that you do not want it to apply to.

So I guess that means some apply 2 Corinthians 6:14 to all of Christian living and some don't. That is the way some Christians justify pro choice which murders babies in their mothers womb.

 

Yes that's what we should do, treat lost people like diseased lepers !!!!!! Lets look down our noses at them and show them how they're totally unworthy of any attention at all except for guilt trips.

While were at it lets not even have lost friends. Lets just drop all association with anyone who isn't a Christian.

Yes I'm being sarcastic..........

Marriage is not a good idea. But to have an attitude with the lost where you shouldn't even try is completely arrogant.

 

Scarlett, it is a hard fast rule as far as I'm concerned when it comes to Christian marriages. A pastor, in my opinion, and I think strongly backed by God's word, has no business endorsing a marriage between a believer and a non-beliver. I think you are playing a little too loose with this principal in this case.

 

There is no Biblical justification for dating a non-believer. For a Christian would condemn another Christian for obeying God's word is very sad in my opinon.

 

Dating is one thing. Marriage is another. While dating you can lead someone to the Lord, like myself or did anyone read that part. Where I was saved due to the efforts of a Christian girlfriend, so of course I'm for it.

freeatlast, I have no other way to put this. You sir are a Pharisee, a legalist of the highest order. You obsess over the letter but obviously have no understanding of the Spirit.

I NEVER said a Christian can marry a non believer!!!! So you have no "high ground" there. You need to realize what made you righteous in the first place, that is Christ , in Him and by Him alone are you made righteous before God. You are no BETTER than the sinner, only better off.

annsni, the point I was getting to, sorry if I was a bit short and rude. We can't keep seeing lost people as if through a plate glass barrier. They see this and they hate us for it and it only serves to harden their hearts. We cant hold it against them because its a condition we caused. This isnt the Devils fault, we Christians did this and its time we hold ourselves accountable and fix the problem. The supposed "outreach" is garbage because its not genuine and has a hidden agenda. People see right through this. If your only befriending them to get them in Church, they see right through it.