1. Welcome to Baptist Board, a friendly forum to discuss the Baptist Faith in a friendly surrounding.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to all the features that our community has to offer.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon and God Bless!

Should personal attacks be tolerated in private messages?

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by matt wade, Aug 8, 2014.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. matt wade

    matt wade Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jan 6, 2009
    Messages:
    6,156
    Likes Received:
    78
    Some members on this board hide behind private messages and attack others. They are shamed by their attacks, so must do it in darkness. Are attacks like the following acceptable in private messages?

    [quickest way to get kicked off? post private messages in public. :) ]
     
    #1 matt wade, Aug 8, 2014
    Last edited by a moderator: Aug 9, 2014
  2. HAMel

    HAMel Well-Known Member
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    Nov 15, 2009
    Messages:
    2,099
    Likes Received:
    96
    Faith:
    Baptist
    Matt Wade..., I don't have a clue as to whom you're referring to but you need to bury the hatchet. Every e-mail server I've ever seen has a "delete" button. Use it! Don't read it! ...get on with your life. :thumbs:
     
  3. matt wade

    matt wade Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jan 6, 2009
    Messages:
    6,156
    Likes Received:
    78
    I agree...thank you :).
     
  4. Don

    Don Well-Known Member
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    Oct 7, 2000
    Messages:
    11,048
    Likes Received:
    321
    Faith:
    Baptist
    Or put them on ignore. Then you won't see the private messages.
     
  5. InTheLight

    InTheLight Well-Known Member
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    Dec 17, 2010
    Messages:
    24,988
    Likes Received:
    2,268
    Faith:
    Baptist
    It shouldn't come to that. Agree with Don on the deployment of the Ignore List. I've got 21 posters on mine. Works great.

    Maybe taking a poll would be in order? You know, like another unnamed poster likes to do so much...
     
  6. Revmitchell

    Revmitchell Well-Known Member
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    Feb 18, 2006
    Messages:
    52,013
    Likes Received:
    3,649
    Faith:
    Baptist
    There is nothing wrong with handling disagreements in pm's. In fact the board admins encourage that. If one does not want to deal with that then put them on the ignore list and they will not be able to even send you a pm.
     
  7. corndogggy

    corndogggy Active Member
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    Aug 30, 2006
    Messages:
    1,108
    Likes Received:
    4
    Faith:
    Baptist
    So much hate on here. You guys need to meet in an old abandoned parking lot and get it out of your system. Message board drama is silliness.
     
  8. Zaac

    Zaac Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 12, 2012
    Messages:
    13,757
    Likes Received:
    222
    Hello Matt. Not sure if we've spoken before. Definitely not acceptable. Some of the posters do quite a bit of that kinda talk in their posts too. But keep private messages private. If you're receiving private messages of the sort you posted, make sure that the mods know. You may also choose to block private messages from everyone except the Mods.

    Hope this helps.:smilewinkgrin:
     
  9. Rolfe

    Rolfe Well-Known Member
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    May 17, 2014
    Messages:
    6,898
    Likes Received:
    638
    Faith:
    Baptist

    21? Congratulations are in order. :laugh:
     
  10. Sapper Woody

    Sapper Woody Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jul 5, 2011
    Messages:
    2,314
    Likes Received:
    175
    PMs should not be debates, or attacks. Discussion you don't want public is OK. I personally have a tendency to be more polite in a PM (as a couple of you can attest to) than I am on the board. On the board you can let impassioned arguments get emotional. A PM is a calmer, "let me figure this out" kind of thing.

    Edited to add: while this might come off as a "diss", it's not intended that way. But I do not personally advocate the use of ignore. It's the easy way out. You can learn something from anyone, even if you are just learning how stupid they are.
     
    #10 Sapper Woody, Aug 8, 2014
    Last edited by a moderator: Aug 8, 2014
  11. Rolfe

    Rolfe Well-Known Member
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    May 17, 2014
    Messages:
    6,898
    Likes Received:
    638
    Faith:
    Baptist
    More polite? You are one of the most civil people on the site.
     
  12. Sapper Woody

    Sapper Woody Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jul 5, 2011
    Messages:
    2,314
    Likes Received:
    175
    Lol. Thank you. Maybe "less confrontational" would have been better. I am more inquisitive of other's opinions and why they think that way in PMs, instead of arguing against them.
     
  13. Bro. Curtis

    Bro. Curtis <img src =/curtis.gif>
    Site Supporter

    Joined:
    Oct 25, 2001
    Messages:
    22,016
    Likes Received:
    487
    Faith:
    Baptist
    Some folks have no problem calling a whole group of people hateful racists, bigots, hating the poor, and having their charitable work questioned, or even denied, then I see the same folks complain about how they are treated. It's stupid.

    Grow up.
     
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
Loading...