Featured Stages of grief

I want to thank each for their contribution.

What a joy to see that some have actually provided Godly counsel and been a guide to the hurting souls.

I would offer this short anecdote.

The ten year old fidgeted in the seat while the paper sat quietly in front of him. Eyes darting from board, to floor to desk, to window, to other children, to books, to pictures... with outwardly no purpose. The unrelenting restlessness had been the bane for the children and teacher; no amount of redirection seemed to work. In talking to the teachers of the past, it seems that the behavior has grown steadily worse sense the initial onset in the midst of third grade.

Family history indicates that this child had a brother, two years older than him, who was murdered in what some called "collateral damage" during a gang retaliation in the neighborhood.

What Godly counsel would you provide to guide the child?

 

There is nothing wrong in what you post, but you missed the mark

Try reading the anecdote without your preconceived notions.

 

Not that anything you said was wrong.

There is a key or "trigger" that so far is missed.

Look back at the anecdote and see what it might be.

 

It is not THAT his brother was killed.

That isn't the trigger.

 

Look at the time frame.

Why would the child grow increasingly fidgety and eyes darting about?

The trigger in the child of the anecdote is, because two years before, the brother was murdered. From that time, the child has not asked how, but when. At first the grief probably manifested as a lack of concentration and distraction by sudden changes, and the issues have grown as the child approaches the same age as the brother at the time of being murdered.

He is scared.

He is wondering when his life will be suddenly taken. :tear:

The point of the anecdote was to show that often there are more clues than the stages of grief and to why a person may seem stuck in a stage.

The triggers of the growing anxiety and behavior differences in children are often overlooked.

Childhood depression and anxiety is not usually manifested the same way and with the same awareness that adults bring, and often the solutions are not found by looking through the eyes of the adult world schemes.

Was this journey into guidance enjoyable?

I hope so!

Is it possible that this thread might be a place were we can share anecdotes along with good counsel?

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None of your post was the point of the anecdote.

Nor, was any counsel of guidance suggested by the anecdote.

The point of the post was to present a scenario before guidance and counsel was to begin and to encourage the reader's insight into the child's problem and what was the actual "trigger."