Suspension Looms for attending the High School Prom

I may not agree with all their rules, but they are their rules and were made known at the beginning of the school year.

The student may very well have just signed the statement because he felt he was forced to. The student signing doesn't mean much to me. The problem as I see it is in this statement:

The stepfather should never have sent the child to the school if he wasn't willing to deal with the rules at that school. This mess is the stepfather's fault for not putting his foot down and telling the student that the rules would be obeyed.

 

I agree with Salt. Too often people enter into a covenant (contract if you wish), gain the benefits of that covenant but when it becomes an impediment to something they want to do, then the covenant is discarded. I hope the Christian school sticks to its guns.

 

If they really want to get technical, when the principal signed the permission slip then he should have put the consequences in writing or not signed the slip according to the covenant rules. This is a two way street, the student was trying to do what was right. Who knows maybe he will be a witness to others by his behavior.

 

I read the article twice and there just isn't enough there to tell what students were and were not allowed to do. I agree that if this student had advance notice of the consequences of going to a public high school's prom, then he has no right to complain. But I get the feeling that the school may have been making up the rules as they went along, and that just isn't right.

 

Y'all are assuming that you're being told the whole story in the article, and that what you are being told is accurate and truthful.

Why was this even considered newsworthy in the first place?

 

Do they think we live in Colonial New England?

 

Why don't we face the facts that while the prom dinner might be good, the dress is mostly immodest, drawing attention to girls' figures, and the dancing is something that no unmarried people should be involved in.

Why is that even questioned? Two high school teenagers rubbing their bodies against each other while the girl is dressed in a form fitting gown designed to accentuate the things that teen boys (and men who aren't dead) find attractive.

Sounds like an excellent plan for Christian growth and godly purity.

Even if his date was dressed appropriately, the others at the party would not be.

 

Then maybe we should not even allow our young men to walk down public streets without a blindfold and seeing eye dog.

 

I think there is certainly danger there. Today, women are not taught modesty. Most of them have no idea what effect their appearance has on men. I saw a recent survey that 75% of men have an issue with this. (The other 25% may be liars.) Why do we want that for our young men and our young ladies?

 

Years ago when I taught high school some of the teachers were responsible for serving as those who helped with the prom. Each year there was a married couple who attended the event and helped with it. They also provided a lot of entertainment for the teenagers. It was rather amusing to watch the teenagers watch the couple dance. It was great to have them there because they set the tone for the dance. The students were dressed well and behaved themselves. Christian couples can help to solve the problem by not avoiding the dance but by actually conducting themselves as an example to teenagers. It does make a difference when people are an example.

When I was much younger my grandparents danced in their living room and had a lot of fun doing it. They grew up in a community where that was a weekly event among the city people and farmers. When I was in Finland it was much the same way in many restaurants.

Not everything has to be perverted.

 

So how does an unmarried couple slow dance in a godly way?

I can't fathom how that kind of body contact is appropriate. I think Christian couples can help by teaching young people to reserve their bodies (every part of them) for marriage.

What good comes out of unmarried couples slow dancing?

 

GB...

Wonderful way of handling it!

I give that 5 stars! *****

No, wait. Its better than that. I give it 10 stars! **********


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Scarlett...

:laugh::laugh::laugh:

Oh, my does that ever bring back memories! I certainly WAS one of those boys too scared to ask any of the girls to dance.

But finally, I saw this pretty girl, and was CERTAIN she would say no, but she said "sure!" and off we went. I couldnt dance worth a lick but I guess I did good enough cause she said she had a good time.

It was all so innocent, and so awkward!

 

I would think that the majority of people today would agree that immorality is at an all time high. We live in a day of a lot of privacy which lends itself to trouble. Perhaps you are unaware of the days when families lived in a small one room house of say about 12' X 12' or less. What do you think all of those folks in the NT lived in. Not all of them had homes or tents which had separate rooms. We must be careful not to press our American way and lifestyle onto scripture. There was a day in America when women wore what we today call modest and it was seen as immodest then.

Too many young girls have never been hugged by their dad and then when some young guy touches them they are excited beyond what they should be and mistake that for love when in reality it is nothing or something it shouldn't be.

Many times in fun I would show my daughter how I kiss my wife. I kiss my wife many times a day in front of her. She knows that my wife is special to me and she see how I treat other women and young ladies. I tell her that women wait for men to open the door. I open the doors for both my wife and daughter. By treating my daughter well like a man should she knows what good treatment is like both by the way she is treated and the way she sees how I treat her mom--my wife.

 

The issue is NOT whether attending a prom is right or wrong----------thats not the issue

The issue is NOT "Well----we had our prom the other day and everybody was dressed nice and everybody behaved themselves!!!!"

Thats not the issue

The issue is one of personal ethics and liability--------the teenager SIGNED his "John Hancock" to a statement that stated he would not engage in prom promotion/attendance

He signed his name-------thats the issue

And now he wants to "renig"------he shows no sign of responsiblilty

Lets just say------same boy-----signs his name to a car loan-----and down the line-------he can't make his payments for whatever reason

Whats the bank gonna do??

They're comin' after their car------regardless of his excuse

If he signed his name to a paper stateing he would not attend------then don't attend

If he signed his name for something as simple as that---and renigs or recants-------whats he gonna do when he faces the REAL world???

"I signed------but I didn't mean it!!!!" is ethical laziness!!!!

"I signed----but now I've changed my mind!!!" is still ethical laziness!!

I challenge readers to study the Book of Proverbs concerning this issue-----you won't find anywhere in Proverbs that says--------"You can't attend proms!!!!"----------but you will find truth that teaches responsibility and liability!!!----------to me---if the dude is a Believer and he signed his name to something it ought to be as if Jesus Christ were signing it----he should sign it as if he were Jesus Christ Himself------and he should sign it as if Jesus Christ were that Principal!!!!

 

Maybe so, maybe not. Whatever he signed should be binding upon the student, but we are speculating on what the "statement of cooperation" said. And don't forget, the statement was drafted by the school. Therefore any ambiguities it contains should be construed in favor of the student and against the school.