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True Love Waits - or does it?

Discussion in '2004 Archive' started by ScottEmerson, May 4, 2004.

  1. Abiyah

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    ScottEmerson wrote:

    I would have to disagree with this statement, but I don't think you intended it the way I read it. :) If they truly love one another, they will wait. For a believer, not waiting is a solid indicator that they are narcistic and/or immature, and love for such a person goes only one way: toward that one's self.


    It horrifies me that the general realm of believers is no different from non-believers, when it comes to both extra-marital sex and divorce.


    North Carolina Tentmaker wrote:


    I can certainly understand where you are coming from; however, this is not always true. I, as a single parent, taught my children strongly that sexual relations outside of marriage were unacceptable by both our God and by me. I further had opportunity, as a widow, to both demonstrate and talk about my relationship with the man I eventually married. (We waited.) They laughed at my responses to their questions, because married adults in our church had told them that intercourse was all right for the engaged, because of their church peers had been pregnant and some had aborted, and because most of their peers they knew in the church were sexually active or had been or had said that they would be under certain circumstances outside of marriage. Also, the church never talked about it, so what did I, as the parent, really know? Their spiritual authorities and peers had basically overpowered me as a parent.



    Not when the spiritual authorities in the child's life, as well as the peers in that church, teach as described above.

    Why did I not leave? I wanted to. Oh, how I wanted to. But I did not, because that church had taught me from my infanthood that all other churches had a "lesser gospel" and that if I left, I would be headed for hell and would take my children with me: I was afraid to leave. But I eventually did leave, after a lot more heartache and devastation, as well as some major eye-opening.
     
  2. North Carolina Tentmaker

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    I saw this article at Agape Press and wanted to post a link

    http://headlines.agapepress.org/archive/6/102004g.asp

    It would appear from this study that while not perfect abstinance pledges do seem to help. They said
     
  3. onestand

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    I agree with NCT here. Would you want your kids to hold the same attitude that "what mom and dad doesn't know won't hurt them"? That will absolutely send a poor message to your kids because then they will think it's perfectly fine to not tell the entire truth and just because you didn't ask that means they didn't have to say anything. Willful honesty is better than caught honesty.

    Plus this gives you as a parent more leverage in telling them, "look i did this and i know from experience", kids will listen a bit closer from an experienced person than someone who's assuming the worst.
     
  4. Daniel

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    I have enjoyed the privilege of being around Josh McDowell and learning the passion of his heart in this area of abstinence. Please don't tell him that TLW's doesn't work. He can counter with literally thousands of tesimonies of how it DOES work. Sure, some break their promises, but not everybody.

    The key is parental honesty. I have a 17 year-old daughter who dates. I have spoken openly to her and her boyfriend about premarital sex. I pray that they will heed my advice and wait.

    Finally, let's look at our lives. Our example is crucial. I counsel the men in particular to watch what they look at on TV and the internet. There are huge snares in both arenas. Being careful in these arenas will add to our credibility with our children.

    May God help us in this sex-crazed society!
     
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