Why is it those who are divorced or have made mistakes in their lives.....

What is it that you hope?
AJ

 

I think it was probably a slip of the tongue (or keybord ) that she mentioned the pregnancy. But she has made many posts in which she tries to justify what most on the BB consider to be unchristian behavior and calls others "judgmental" for disagreeing with her.

Again, she can clear all this up when she comes back. I am not trying to attack her or gossip as all her posts have been public, but something is just not right here. It's hard to imagine a church these days shunning someone who is divorced, since it is SO common now. Her church must be shunning most of its members.

 

I agree with you 100%, but yes, something isnt right.

I know I have led a very bad life, and I have no right to condemn anyone's life....but the Bible tells me that I am forgiven, and that same Bible and Lord will forgive anyone else that asks.

But when person trys to lead a double life.....spritual on sunday, and secular during the week, then it nees to be addressed.

Superwoman? I do pray for your situation, but you have to realize that you must also make an effort. God is not going to bless y7ou as long as you are living against His will.

And if it is true that you have been shacking up, or have a baby not by your husband, God will still forgive you. But, you have to be honest with everyone. that means us, your family, your freinds, your baby's family, your church, and most of all, with God.

Church is not about what the other people there think, it is about what God thinks, and that is solely based on your relationship with Him.

AJ

 

It is quite common.

 

You may not live a double life, but you have misrepresented yourself here on these boards. Why bring up hypotheticals in other threads that weren't hypotheticals at all? And actually they were you and NOT someone else. While I do NOT condemn you as a person, as I have no room to do so, I do strongly disagree with your actions and hope you don't mind me praying for you. And even if you do mind I'm gonna do it anyway. raying:

 

You're being treated like a second class citizen because you're divorced, a single mom and there is no Mr. in the home ?
Now that is news, news, news to me.
Either I am not living in the real world, or you are not. Must be me.
From what I know, being divorced and a single mom (or dad) is the "in" thing, like being gay, or pro-gay, or a non-redneck, or pro-life, and being happy with the thought that one was formerly a blob floating around until the blob evolved into a one-celled amoeba then a fish, then a monkey, and so on down (or up) the evolutionary ladder.

Last I heard, people who have been married as opposed to being "domestic partners" were the oddities, most especially if they have been married for more than five (5) years, and people who believed they were created by God in His image, and who believed gay sex was a no-no, or who believed in the good old values that used to make up the moral core of this country, these were those that the ultra-modern, let your hair down, anything goes real world "snickered" at.

Well, I guess I must be living in a make-believe world.

 

That this would be cleared up.

 

All you gotta do is watch the Disney channel for a couple of hours, and you'll realize that divorced moms/single parent families are not second class citizens. In fact, according to that channel, it's the families that actually have 2 parents (of opposite sex) that are abnormal.

That said, I'm going to say something, and it's going to be harsh, but I'm going to say it anyway: Superwoman, stop playing the victim. If you've got things settled with the Lord, then why are you complaining about the way others treat you? Why are you on here looking for justification for your choices and lifestyle?

 

Sad though it is, sometimes divorce is a blessing.

 

Superwoman,

I am sorry that you are having these feelings.

Sometimes, though, our feelings are amplified by our own perceptions or misperceptions. If you believe God has forgiven you, move on past what appears to be bitterness and anger. It is difficult to get past a man who has hurt you and you feel he has broken your life in peices. But you can move on. Be careful in moving on that you do not beat everyone up around you. Seriously, people just want to help. But helping people want a level of transparency.

What are you in AA for--because your ex was an alcoholic, or because you are?

It sounds like you haven't accepted the fact that you are divorced and your son is without "a father." There is nothing wrong with you watching the game with him. You might also find families to pair up with so that your son can get some positive male influence in his life.

As far as being pregnant again, Congratulations! You have chosen a more difficult path to follow being that you are a single mother, but I hope that you can fall on the strength of the Lord to see you through this, both with your health and in raising all your children. Also in dealing with the circumstances surrounding the conception of this blessing of God. I will be in prayer for you.

 

Usually, those who are not divorced and who have not lived scandalous lives demonstrate a wisdom and depth of character that has been abandoned or not pursued by those who walked a path less praiseworthy.

Good families and strong marriages don't just happen.

That's not to say that sometimes people aren't simply innocent victims, and it's not to say that God hasn't changed such folks, but judging from all the whining and the mitigation of your "mistakes," it's hard for one to see you as a discerning, disciplined individual, or one who is truly repentant. I would certainly object to your holding a position in church (or anywhere else for that matter) where you would serve as a role model to my children.

Do you "get it" now?

 

Being Christ-like means much more than just loving everybody. Jesus also taught about responsibility and living a godly life.

It was you , yourself that started this thread asking why people respond to you like they do. But when folks here answer that question you get upset. Your comments and actions dont reflect a person who has "clung to the cross".

I find it amusing that you call your ex-husband "Mr Idiot". If you just got divorced in June, and your baby is due in Feb, then you must have still been married to Mr Idiot when you got pregnant by someone else. I wonder what your ex calls you.

What I am trying to point out to you is that what you say and what you actually do doesnt seem to fit.

Perhaps you should seek counsel from your pastor. I would be very leery of the ideaology of some of these secular support groups. Some of the folks that I know in AA have totally rejected church and AA has become their church. The worst thing about that is that AA excuses any and all immoral behavior just as long as they dont drink. I have even heard some say that Jesus and church wont keep anyone sober, only AA can do that.

I have to agree with the previous poster, you seem to be less upset with how you live, and more upset that folks notice it. Repentance is a wonderful thing.

Here are my suggestions, based on your own statements:

Seek christian counsel.

Study the Bible and learn more about godly living.

Let go of the animosity you have towards your ex and others.

Stop blaming everyone else, its your life, take responsibility for it.

And most of all, be honest with yourself, and dont make excuses.

I wish you the best.

AJ

 

I don't know if you know this, but you don't have to be "superwoman".

In reality, we are all weak in God's eyes, and the more we trust and follow him and do what is right, the stronger we really are.

It is okay to be weak. Then the power of God is manifest through us.

 

Are you familiar with the Barkers of gangster fame?

Those boys loved their mother more than anything, but Ma Barker was anything but a good role model. What I am saying is that having the love of a child doesnt make one a good role model.

I agree with Aaron on the role model thing. I would not allow my child to visit in your home with all of the stuff going on, and with the animosity you carry. Its not healthy nor is it a good example.

AJ