Why Men Hate Going to Church

Another awesome book that touches a lot on this subject is "Wild at Heart" by John Eldridge

 

modern christianity (not everywhere but mainly in apostate churches) has de-masculinized masculinity. I have heard tales "from the old days" when men were encouraged to be men, not more understanding. of course men in those days very often had no choice but to be men, but now men who want to knock the heads off jerks swearing in the next booth, are said to have "anger" issues, instead of righteousness issues. i premit no one to oogle my wife if they do there just might be blood, especially after i give them warning (i only warn once). and liberal preachers, and liberals in general for that matter.

 

In the world today there are more women than men, particurly in New Zealand and also in Australia to a lesser degree. Hence New Zealand has a parliment dominated by female leadership which leads to a Matriachal society. This flows into churches, particurly when on mission fields there are ten female workers for every one male.

People rip on Promise Keepers, yet we need something to bring back the balance.

 

Unfortunately we are unable to offer that sort of compensation.

I agree in some churches there's a movement away from the more warlike songs to more wimpy ones. I'd say both have their place.

 

Assume you are real man's man, and you have no experience with churches or Christianity. If you walked into your church on a typical Sunday morning, would you see anything that would make you want to check it out?

 

How about "The Power Team"?

 

Not unless you wear one of those traditional nurse's caps
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The church needs to teach men to be strong men of God, and stop teaching them to be (***edit by blackbird***) who try to get along with everyone...

The church needs to teach men to stand up for what is right, and not sink away from confrontation.

Music and lyrics are important, choose them carefully.

Get men involved in projects with other men (and the same with females), so that they can have meaningful male to male relationships, which will also inspire accountability and holiness in their lives.

Flowers are beautiful and great, but don't over-do it... An OVERLY intimate environment can, and will, put men to sleep. (This is also where the music comes in...)

Stop feeding the flock baby food, real men like (and need) steak. In great times throughout church history, the flock have had great desire to hear the Word. In NT days, the church would come together EVERY DAY! The same is true about other great revivals. Some preachers brought such truth and power to the pulpit that the flock would come together daily to listen to them preach. Powerful preaching is needed, it is the main duty of those whom God has intrusted to be undershepards.


These are just a few ideas that popped into my mind. These are not perfect or complete ideas by any means, but we have to start somewhere.


- W.W.

[ August 11, 2005, 07:41 PM: Message edited by: blackbird ]

 

Short answer: PRIDE

 

I go to church every Sunday, but I must say they I have changed churches before due the boring preacher. I enjoy soul-stirring sermons, not wandering-talking-about how sorry the world is. I want a sermon that inspires me to be a Christian, not be depressed.

 

Rob- I agree with you completely. I too, was Head Usher at the church I used to attend. In the course of 10 years I probably got to hear about 10 sermons. I was too busy with recording the offering, the attendance(in the sanctuary and all the Sunday School Classes), and trying to find people willing(or interested) in ushering. it was nice to walk around-but it doesn't beat being in the service. Like your first name.

Rob

 

I think the real problem is that men have been lazy. If the church has been feminized it is because we have had to see the ladies take over as the spiritual leaders in alot of households. The ladies are the ones that get the kids up and to church and the ladies have had to fill many of the leadership roles because the men won't get up in the morning.

Now men have the excuse that they don't want to go to church because it is geared too far over to the feminine side.

We as men are reaping what we sow. Men need to lead their families again. We need to be more involved in the spiritual lives of our families and take church more seriously. God set it up for men to lead. It is the men who have dropped the ball spiritually.

We need to stop finding lame excuses for not attending church and take responsibility for what has happened.

I believe it will balance out as God intended when men lead their families instead of laying that responsibility on the ladies.

 

Amen Soulman.
Believe it or not most women do want strong leaders in our families and churches. We don't want wimpy churches either.

 

I read an interesting statistic a while back, and off the top of my head can't remember where it was, but it said that if the wife/mom gets saved and connects to a church, it's a struggle to get the rest of the family, and the % is pretty low. But if a husband/dad gets saved and connects to a church, it's a very high % of entire families are reached. In other words, if we reach the men, we get the whole family. Something to think about