I have a niece that just turned 14. She is currently living with her grandparents. Her mother abandoned her when she was 2 and her father left her a couple of years later. Her mother has 2 other children by 2 different men and her father has 2 children by different women. Her family influence is not what you would call moral. Her father is the grandmother’s son. To make a long story shorter she was adopted by her father’s parents. To make matters worse she has chronic crones on top of everything else. I found out that she started dating an 18 year old man from her churches youth group. First of all by SC law this is illegal and I find it immoral for a man to date a 14 year old child. Keep in mind that the grandmother claims to be a good Christian. Christmas day this questionable young man was at her house when my family went over for a family Christmas dinner. First of all he is not family and secondly he is not what I would let my child hang around. He is redneck to the core. I confronted the grandmother and aunt about this after he left and I got attacked. I was told that age does not matter. I was told I was being a judge and I had no right to judge people. I told them that with age comes wisdom and I view this like a road with many forks. On this road we must view down that forks paths and try to see what lies ahead in order to make the best judgment in life. I said what I’m doing in not judging but it is call foresight. I told them in the old world it was a noble thing to speak truth and try to warn someone you love about a bad path. I said that today people like you want to sugar coat problems and hide behind the excuse that only God can judge. I warned them about how my niece’s mother was in school and how dating an older man in Junior High gave her a bad reputation. I told her that my niece is on that same path and it’s a shame that a professioning Christian would willingly allow this to happen considering that your son has 2 children out of wedlock and her mother has 2 children out of wedlock. Everyone got mad at me for speaking the truth. I was asked what I thought and when I replied they all got angry. There is no way that I would let my 14 year old daughter date an 18 year old pervert. What does an 18 year old see in a 14 year old outside of easy sex? I told them that my niece is very immature and she could easily be influenced. I warned them about her health and how she is getting a bad reputation. All this fell on liberal ears. I was told that age does not matter. I replied then just let her date a 40 year old man. I said that at 14 age does matter because a 14 year old is still developing. I told them that when my niece is 14 it is different than her being 18. There is a big difference between 14 and 18. Then I was told he was immature. I replied, ”well then that really makes me fell better! An immature 18 year old redneck who is out of school working part time! Gee that makes it A O.K”. I said this further proves my point about him and wanting a toy to fondle and possible have sex with. I told them that a good moral Christian 18 year old would not date a 14 year old child. They got angry. But as an uncle what can I do? It sickens me to see them hide behind the church while turning their granddaughter out. I’m not a hateful man but I am a moral man who believes in morality. It hurts me to see this and what is worse is they tried to put my blessings upon it. This young man must know that my blessings are not in this. I’m really stumped here. For the life of me I can not understand how a parent or in this case a grandparent allows this to happen. They know that this young man wants to have sex with my niece and they blind-eye it. They attacked me for speaking Godly truths. What can I do outside of pray? I’m asking each of you who read this to make a special prayer for protection and wisdom for my niece. I ask that you pray that God smites that family with conviction about this immoral act. Please make a special request at your church and if you have a prayer list put it down as a special unspoken. My heart is broken because I have helped raised this young lady since she was 1 ½. I have seen what she has been through and I wish a million times over I had adopted her because if I did rest assured she would not be dating. I fear the path she is taking and its being hidden behind the Christian faith.