8 Traits of Teens Who Abstain From Sex

Amen! It's always better to obey :thumbsup: .

 

I read recently that teens who make a promise to abstain until marriage usually don't and are just as likely to get into sex before marriage as teens who don't make that promise. It seems that peer pressure is stronger than many teens' desire to keep a promise or to keep themselves virgin until marriage.

 

Teens who choose to abstain choose to do so within themselves rather than on a peice of paper.

 

I'm not necessarily certain about any of the above responses, as I did not read all of them carefully, but I'm absolutely sure of one thing.

Abstention is 100% effective in the prevention of teen age parents for starters. :thumbsup:

Ed

 

I doubt it is peer pressure. I imagine hormones & a freshly created & raging libido have a lot to do with it.

 

Sounds to me like 'Planned Parenthood' propaganda. Abstinence cuts into their profit margins.

 

I think that how we parent them makes all the difference. Yes, sex is interesting to a teen, but a teen with a great relationship with the parents is less likely to seek out something that is lacking in his/her life, imo and ime.

 

Jon-Marc,

The problem with that report is that it assumes that other means of sex education are automatically effective. The key is in the comparison.

Abstinence education will effect 4% of participants. Other sex education methods will effect 6% of participants. That is essentially a tie. So while, it could be argued that such programs are not effective in changing the majority of teenagers, Abstinence is just as effective as any other program.

Certainly, there is more to sex and the spiritual development of teenagers, but these results are really all one can get from that report.

I apologize that I don't have the source here to list. I just read this in World Magazine (i think) yesterday.

 

Peer pressure has caused a lot of teens to do what they didn't want to do in order to be accepted--sex, smoking, drinking, drugs. If they are told that they won't have any friends if they don't do those things, then most of them will do them.

Peer pressure almost worked on me when I was 13. I was with my 16-year-old brother and two other boys his age when he said, "If you want to have friends, you'll have to smoke like they do." In my ignorance and weakness I took a cigarette from him and let him light it. I took one puff off it, tossed it on the ground and mashed it out. Then I said, "I don't need friends that bad." The stench and foul taste overpowered my desire to be accepted. However, not all teens are that strong willed. Their desire to be accepted and popular is much stronger than their desire to do right.

 

One can have the heart of their children and educate them by example: one's own experiences and pointing out other people's expeinces. This "shows" them a good picture of reality.

A tenderness coupled with straight-forwardness has kept my 19 and 16 yearolds virgins with two younger siblings following close behind them.

Teaching them realtiy demolishes all influences of peer pressure!

I agree witht the "8"!!!:thumbsup:

 

Congratulations on raising your kids well. May God grant them the strength to keep their vows...until the vows. :thumbsup:

 

I can't beleive the civilality of this! But thanks!

 

I'll give you smoking and some other behaviors. But I never knew anyone who had sex due to peer pressure. It was usually because of their libido. And of course, those who bragged about it were those who weren't doing it. THAT is probably peer pressure at work.

 

One of the age old lies used by horny boys to get it from their girlfriend is to say, "If you love me, you will. Besides, everyone else is doing it." One used on boys is embarrassing him into it by claiming that he is the only boy in his school who is still a virgin, and that works also. Plus, other boys are bragging (not always truthfully) about all the girls they've had, and they shame other boys into sex before they're ready. No teen wants to feel like they're different and not be accepted. I'm not so old that I don't remember what it's like not to have any friends as a teen because of not doing the things they do and expect you to do in order to be accepted by them. Peer pressure DOES force teens to have sex in order to be like all the other teen boys who claim to sexually active. Being called "gay" is a big incentive for boys to have sex to prove others wrong. I was called that by my dad because I wasn't having sex. That's why I married the wrong person--to prove him wrong.

 

kinda explicit language there?