Babies and Young Children In Church Services

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by Thousand Hills, Nov 19, 2013.

  1. Thousand Hills

    Thousand Hills
    Expand Collapse
    Active Member

    Joined:
    Oct 3, 2010
    Messages:
    1,488
    Likes Received:
    4
    What is the policy at your church on babies and young children staying with their parents during the service? Is it up to the parent, are they strongly encouraged to use the nursery facilities (if available)? What about first time visitors?
     
  2. Reformed

    Reformed
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2012
    Messages:
    1,227
    Likes Received:
    57
    Parents retain responsibility for and authority over their children. There is nothing wrong with cry rooms or utilizing a nursery. If a child is acting up, and the parent cannot bring them under control, then it is prudent for a parent to remove the child from the worship service. If the parents have their children under control then they should not be pressured to put their children in the nursery, Sunday school, or children's church.

    P.S. Besides the fact that there is no warrant in Scripture to separate ages in worship.
     
  3. Thousand Hills

    Thousand Hills
    Expand Collapse
    Active Member

    Joined:
    Oct 3, 2010
    Messages:
    1,488
    Likes Received:
    4
    Is your church completely Family Integrated? What do you think about that movement?
     
  4. Reformed

    Reformed
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2012
    Messages:
    1,227
    Likes Received:
    57
    No. We are not family integrated. I do not support the Family Integrated Church Movement, the NCFIC, or Vision Forum. It is my opinion that they go beyond scriptural warrant in many areas. That said, where there is scriptural warrant on an issue related to family, I accept it. There is no scriptural warrant for separating ages in worship. For that reason our church does not separate families in worship.
     
  5. Earth Wind and Fire

    Earth Wind and Fire
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2010
    Messages:
    18,915
    Likes Received:
    94
    Do you separate them in Sunday School? Do you separate them in Bible Study? If so, do you see a scriptural warrant for that separation?
     
  6. annsni

    annsni
    Expand Collapse
    Administrator
    Administrator

    Joined:
    May 30, 2006
    Messages:
    20,149
    Likes Received:
    365
    We have Sunday school for kids basically prek4 through 6th grades. We did have a nursery for infants if parents wanted to utilize it but we didn't need it for a long time so we didn't have it. But we now have a mom with a 10 month old and she's been bringing her daughter into the service. We don't have a facility right now that is conducive to having a nursery (the room we're getting for the children in the hotel is very small and we can't easily divide it like we used to in the room we used to get) so having the baby in the room with us is fine. She fusses a little but never is loud or disruptive. If she were screaming, I would expect any mom would bring their child out of the service so as to not distract others. I'd just like to be able to give her the opportunity to fully focus on the service rather than having to watch her child and as soon as we can, we will try to accommodate her with a nursery.
     
  7. Reformed

    Reformed
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2012
    Messages:
    1,227
    Likes Received:
    57
    We have one Sunday school class for all ages. Our mid-week Bible study and prayer meeting is for all ages.
     
  8. JohnDeereFan

    JohnDeereFan
    Expand Collapse
    Active Member

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2009
    Messages:
    4,628
    Likes Received:
    11
    We have a nursery if a parent would rather leave their child there, but we encourage families to stay together during the service.

    We believe in an age-integrated church and do not segregate by age. We believe that the Biblical model is for children to be around the older saints to observe them and to learn from them.
     
  9. Revmitchell

    Revmitchell
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Feb 18, 2006
    Messages:
    38,287
    Likes Received:
    780
    Parents can keep their children if they desire. That is their choice. We cannot tell people what to do. However we make children's church and nursery available. That is what is best it lets the children be taught at an age appropriate level and allows them to actually enjoy learning about the Lord.
     
  10. Jerome

    Jerome
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Aug 21, 2006
    Messages:
    5,607
    Likes Received:
    44
    EWF, don't the Primitives separate the family in seating at worship?
    Used to be, most everybody did:



    P.E. Burroughs, The Baptist People, p. 45:


    Robert J. Dinkin, "Seating the Meeting House in Early Massachusetts," New England Quarterly, Vol. 43, No. 3 (Sep., 1970), p. 457:


    The History of the European Family: Family life in the Long Nineteenth Century 1789-1913, p. 215:


    19th Century Southern Methodist Bishop George Foster Pierce decried family seating as a modern and unwelcome innovation:

     
  11. HAMel

    HAMel
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 15, 2009
    Messages:
    2,048
    Likes Received:
    83
    At our church we require the parents to leave their children in their respective cars and then, assign one to serve as the Parking Lot Attendant.

    ...that's just how we do it in Hicksville seeing as how we're so ignorant in the back woods.


    JUST KIDDING FOLKS - JUST KIDDING. No parking lot attendant! No requirement to leave said kids in the car! JUST KIDDING!!!

    Everyone of all ages are welcome in our church. If a baby goes to screaming the mother simply gets up and retreats or the Stiff Necks are shown the door.
     
  12. thisnumbersdisconnected

    thisnumbersdisconnected
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Apr 11, 2013
    Messages:
    8,448
    Likes Received:
    0
    We have a secure nursery, licensed, with security background checks done for all volunteers. Anyone should feel safe leaving their children there, and are encouraged to do so. Older children, from perhaps four on up, are "optional" -- there's a place for them, but if the parents want them in the service, they should be there. For that matter, if they want to bring the infants in, no one is going to stop them. I've seen babies sleep through our entire service. Not sure how Pastor Derrick feels about that, but I'm sure he's fine with it, much more so than if one of the adults does the same.

    Same as ours, and at most, I would venture to guess.
     
  13. Earth Wind and Fire

    Earth Wind and Fire
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2010
    Messages:
    18,915
    Likes Received:
    94
    Wow....thats purdy good. Ive not seen that in quite some time.
     
  14. Earth Wind and Fire

    Earth Wind and Fire
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2010
    Messages:
    18,915
    Likes Received:
    94
    That hasn't been my experience.
     
  15. Thousand Hills

    Thousand Hills
    Expand Collapse
    Active Member

    Joined:
    Oct 3, 2010
    Messages:
    1,488
    Likes Received:
    4
    I know you are jesting, but might not be a bad idea for those folks that AMEN!! everything.

    Pastor: This Wednesday were' having a pot luck.
    That guy: AMEN!!

    Pastor: Please remember sister Bertha that had hip surgery.
    That guy: AMEN!!

    Choir Director: Please turn to page 492, 1st and 5th stanzas
    That guy: AMEN!!
     
  16. Dan Todd

    Dan Todd
    Expand Collapse
    Moderator
    Moderator

    Joined:
    Mar 13, 2003
    Messages:
    14,452
    Likes Received:
    0
    Our church is very small in number - but we've had children's church for many years. We let them go to children's church - generally till they are old enough to understand what is going on in regular church.
     
  17. salzer mtn

    salzer mtn
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 24, 2012
    Messages:
    1,581
    Likes Received:
    26
    I know of a church that the pastor insisted that every child under four years old be in the nursery. I have seen the pastors wife go to visitors with children under four and tell them she would take their child to the nursery. Guess what ? all this changed when the pastor and his wife became grand parents.
     
  18. HAMel

    HAMel
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 15, 2009
    Messages:
    2,048
    Likes Received:
    83
    ...all this changed when the pastor and his wife became grand parents.

    salzer mtn, isn't it strange when one finds themselves walking in another's shoes?
     
  19. Salty

    Salty
    Expand Collapse
    20,000 Posts Club
    Moderator

    Joined:
    Apr 8, 2003
    Messages:
    22,083
    Likes Received:
    218
    So does everyone in your church send their kids to the same public school that only has one class (for all grades) and only one teacher?

    Just to clarify - if a mother will not take a screaming child out of the worship service, what action do the ushers take- and if they politely ask her to take the child out - and she refuses - then waht?
     

Share This Page

Loading...