Bachelor, Bachelorette parties

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  1. freeatlast

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    These parties usually are to celebrate one last night of freedom before a marriage. Should a Chastain be taking part in these things?
     
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    I don't see it as celebrating the "last day of freedom" but instead the women taking the bride out and the men taking the man out to celebrate their wedding. At least that's how MY group of friends have done it.

    We usually go out a week or so before the wedding because usually the night before is the rehearsal dinner. We will go to do something "beauty" such as a mani-pedi and then get dinner together. I know the men will usually go to a Brazillian BBQ place where there is a ton of meat and then go to the driving range or something like that. It's a night of a fun time together with nothing evil or sketchy. Just a nice time with only the girls together and the guys together.
     
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    They are neutral and like anything else, can be done for good and can be done for bad. No need to classify all of them as anything.
     
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    I agree and would add this. These kind of parties are also used to celebrate the last night of freedom, a boys night out. For a believer I think that sends a wrong message. If the party is to celebrate the marriage then fine, but if it is like the last party of freedom then I would say it should not happen.
     
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    Yes, a Chastain, er, a Christian can be taking part in these things. Depends on the agenda. Keep them clean and have innocent good fun. No strippers, no porn. I got married in my 30's and made it clear I wanted none of that. Instead as one of the stops the guys took me to a dance nightclub where I was treated like a celebrity by the ladies there. I was 'hit on' and flirted with numerous times by some very attractive ladies. After the third or fourth time I realized (dang it!) that I can't be that good looking, and found out the guys were putting the ladies up to it.
     
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    Wow :tear:
     
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    I doubt I would even attend a "bachelor party". If a fellow believer was to have such a party, I would insist on using a title other than "bachelor party"
     
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    Call me a Fuddy Dudd------------but I didn't have one!!!
     
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    Well, Fuddy; I never had one either :1_grouphug:
     
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    I got married 35 years ago, probably by today's standards the most boring series of events in history. First, there was no bachelor or bachelorette parties. Our reception was in the church Fellowship Hall. The menu was a cake, punch, and an assortment of snacks. I was Presbyterian at the time, and asked if we could go swimming in the baptistry after the reception at the time. That did not go over really well. Neither set of our parents were well off enough to put on an expensive anything for the wedding, but it was decorated beautifully in the church. We had members of the local church sing and play the music.
     
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    When I got married almost seven years ago, I had a "bachelor" party. It consisted of me, my cousin, and my brother going back to my apartment, ordering pizza, and watching an action movie.
     
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    I got married in '65, with no parties at all. Closest was me & my future uncle-in-law spending the day of the wedding on the local lake fishing.:tongue3:

    Since tradition demanded that I not see my bride until the ceremony, this was the most interesting AND safest way to do it.

    Don't remember cleaning any fish, so I don't know if the day was a bust, or if my U-I-L took care of that chore!!
     
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    I agree with those that say that they are not right or wrong.

    I am actually going to one saturday. Paintball is the activity from what I have been told.

    I think bachelor party is a great term because it is in fact one last time to have fun as a bachelor.

    The thing is, no bachelor has any business with any of that inappropriate activity anyway. Strippers etc are certianly wrong, however there is serious commitment in marraige and going out with the guys one last time is not a problem.

    There is "one last night of commitment" but there is already a commitment to moral purity. Bachelors are just as obligated as married men to be moral.

    FOr the record, I did not have one of these but only because it did not work out.
     
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    Dale,
    It is good to see you again. Hope all is well with you and your family. As I said before, I had no bachelor party thirty five years ago, but see no problem with it under appropriate conditions.
     
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    Dale,
    I tried to send you a PM but your inbox is full, the message said.
     
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    I cleared a few messages out so you can send it again.
     
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    That should have read freedom, not commitment :)


    I was thinking after I posted last night that bachelor parties show a lot about a mans view of what he is free to do.
    Sadly, most in our society think they can do anything they want before marriarge and that they have one last chance befor they become a "one woman man"
     

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