Changing churches

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  1. Sminasian

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    I have ASSURANCE that I am saved, washed in the blood and my name is written in the Lambs book of life. I was saved in 1997.

    I started out at a fundemental baptist church, very old school, in dress, music, etc. I felt at home there but the " style" of the church bored me after a while. I went to a area fundemental baptist church, which is contemporary, as in music and dress, etc, but still have the traditional values, sunday pm services, etc. However, this church is large, I am in RI and the church has over a thousand members, which is huge for my state. Personally, I cant take the extremely loud blaring music, getting there a hour earlier to park the car, and all the comotion of all those people. I recently rejoined this church after being in a Armenian apostolic church for 6 years. Now I am ready to go back to my old fashioned, old hymns, stuffy baptist church because to me, it is more simple, less comotion, etc. Only problem is they are very legalistic with , like I said, dress code, etc.... Which I am fine with, I know how to properly and modestly dress, I just dont want to dress like a pilgrim. This church has about 200 members, many who I have known since the day I was saved, and I would feel comfortable there. I just dont know if it is a good idea to " church hop" again. Any suggestions?
    I am new to this board, and sometimes cant find what I posted, so anyone who wants to email me can. [email protected]
    Thanks and God bless
     
  2. Alive in Christ

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    Sminasion...

    Welcome to the Baptist board!

    If you scroll to the very top of the board.. way above the screen you are putting your message on, you will see the "Baptist Board" name up there in the blue background.

    Right under it you will see "user CP" (That stands for "control panel")

    Click it and you will find all kinds of usefull "helps"...one of which is

    "subscriped threads"

    That will help you find all of the threads you have posted on. :wavey:
     
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  3. Oldtimer

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    Back when I was a kid, we had 3 sets of clothing. Sunday, school, and work. Being po folks, there wasn't much money, so clothing had to last a long time. Often one piece of clothing had all three labels before it became so worn that it had to be discarded.

    However, within those catagories, there were articles of clothing that never changed in classification. Suits for the boys and "nice" (for lack of a better word) dresses for the girls. Dresses that were too formal for casual wear in the school environment, just as the boys suits were too formal. And neither were appropriate for farm work when too worn for any other use.

    All this was said to lay the groundwork for this comment. Perhaps, you can set aside a section in your closet for "Sunday" clothes. Before someone yells hypocrite, this is said on the premise that all of your clothing would be considered to be modest. For example, if all of your blouses have sleeves, wear the long sleeved ones on Sunday, if that's the "policy" of your old church and your shorter sleeved one when you go to your job or do housework. Same thing with dress/skirt lengths. Again, on the premise that you don't wear mini skirts, and such anywhere. If you wear modest slacks to mow the lawn, save them to mow the lawn or go grocery shopping, if that's your preference.

    Just as you (we) set aside certain articles of clothing to be worn at the beach, as it isn't suitable to wear grocery shopping or on your job, the same can be said about what you call pilgrim wear. Each can be modest and worn were it's appropriate to wear them.

    The point that I'm trying to get to is don't let what's in your closet interfere with your worship of our Lord. Theres are too much of that going on in the world today. Battles rage on message boards and in some churches regarding women wearing pants in church. We, as Christians, have far more challenging issues, IMO, to confront than fringe on robes.

    Next, I don't believe in "church hopping" as the term is usually used. Meaning that a person will to go church A for a few weeks or months. Then get ticked off over some minor issue and go to church B instead. A few months later, they are at church C for the same type reason. Then, D, E, and so on.

    However, in your case, I don't call this church hopping. Returning to a church where your heart is in the right place with our Lord is the right thing to do. If the Holy Spirit is calling you back to your old church, that is the right thing to do. Search your heart, pray, look hard at your motives for changing churches, and you'll know the right thing to do, yourself.

    We can only suggest as we don't know what's in your heart. Perhaps, neither your old church nor this new one is the right place for you. Before you make your final decision, visit some other Baptist churches in your area. It sounds like you made a huge leap from "conservative" to "liberal" in your church life. Maybe, you should have made a small step to a less strict fundamental church.

    Personal comment: I would not be at 'home" in a large contemporary church for a number of reasons. Nor, would I be at home in some of the strict fundamentist churches either. I grew up in such a church in another demonination where "rules" seemed to be of primary importance while giving glory to God came in second. As it has turned out, that's one of the reason why I drifted away from the church for far too many years. Saw too many bitter church battles. Saw too many good people hurt, because of church mandates and dictates -- stumbling blocks placed in the path of the faithful. Abiding by the rules seemed to be more important than abiding by the greatest commandments given by Jesus.

    I hope that you will find something useful in this long-winded rambling reply. Pray for guidance and listen to the Holy Spirit and study the Bible. With His help, you'll know which church is "home" for you.
     
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    Not bad advice for a whole bunch of other things beyond just knowing "which church is 'home' for you" as well, my friends!!
     
  5. Sminasian

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    Thank you for your wonderful advice. As a matter of fact, I do just that. Church clothes, " work" clothes( I am a consultant with Mary Kay and we wear n ice modest clothes as rule of thumb). " house clothes". I believe that when in Rome, do what the romans do, sort of thing. It is just a matter of respect. At 49 I wouldnt WANT to dress in a mini skirt, LOL etc.

    To clear the record, BOTH churches are fundemental baptist. Just one is contemporary and the other is traditional. I like the " homey" feeling and the small group of worshippers at the traditional one. My main issue of concern is that I keep changing churches, which only hinders my walk and my testimony. I desire to do what is glorifying to the Lord, and yet I cant find a church to stay with. :tonofbricks:
     
  6. Gregory Perry Sr.

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    Just a thought...

    Sister...in the end the truth is all that counts and one of those truths is there are no perfect people or perfect churches....Only a perfect Saviour! My advise is that...you keep that humble spirit and attitude, keep your eyes on the Lord and not men(or women) and He will lead you accordingly as to the place of service He has for you. It is our our work as witnesses for Him that we are left here for in the first place. The place you worship that offers the least "distractions" to that would be the right one in my opinion. I, like yourself, tend to thrive more spiritually in a more "traditional" surroundings. I'm an "old paths" kinda guy. God Bless You!

    Bro.Greg
     

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