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I'm pretty sure you're not God. And since you're not God and don't know what God's path was for swaim, maybe you should withhold your judgment of whether or not swaim believed God.

 

The verse I quoted from Proverbs earlier in this thread in response to Olivencia's OP was "he who finds a wife finds a good thing". If a man finds a wife, he must have been seeking for her. Men who do not seek a wife will probably not find one. If you sit around and wait for God to drop one in your lap...well, I hope she's skinny!

 

Find is not looking.....it's the opposite. Did you read Genesis chapter 24?

 

Seems like sharing Gods principals is a little hard to swallow? Or maybe Swaim should not judge by saying what he said about those who believe in the principle of waiting instead of dating. Hebrews 6:12 So that you may not be slow in heart, but may take as your example those to whom God has given their heritage, because of their faith and their long waiting. Thus I referred to Genesis 24......you can do as you like,but the principal never grows old. I know it can be hard to wait but Mary who's brother Lazarus died was waiting ....seemed to her like an eternity I'm sure. In the end however she got more that she dreamed.

 

Wow you missed the boat on this one. Those things were written for our encouragement to trust God. Why did Hebrews 11 share their stories? Seek FIRST the kingdom of God. Matthew 6:33

 

Sorry I disagree and won't argue my point further.

 

Now if you were all really interested in following a Biblical pattern in marriage you would insist on "arranged marriages," not by dating sites, but by your parents, and if that is not possible (because of death or sickness), your older brothers, uncles, etc.
Face it. Your parents reared you. They put at least 18 hard years of labor into making you what you are today. It cost them thousands of dollars and untold man-hours to do it. And it was done out of selfless love. There is no one that knows you better than your parents, and no one that would have your best interests at heart more than your parents. Your parents have far more wisdom at choosing a wife/husband for you than you do (a person of 20-25). They would not allow their emotions to get in their way. Their choice would be based on your best interest, not their emotions, such as many young people's are.

The marriages of those in the Bible are all without question arranged. If you want to follow a Biblical pattern, have your parents arrange for a spouse for you to marry.

 

Unfortunately, this isn't always true.

 

God's principle of waiting is just fine. Your interpret this principle to mean doing nothing and waiting for somebody to fall out of the sky. This is where you and I disagree.

Oh, really. Let's see what swaim actually said.

How is swaim judging yours, or anybody else's, beliefs here? Please be specific, because I don't see where he implied that "Jedi Knight doesn't believe God." I do see where you felt it necessary to judge swaim's belief in God.

Boiling it down, it seems that your idea about places like eHarmony is that you don't like them, therefore they are unbiblical and wrong.

 

A couple of replies to Jedi Knight:

First, I wouldn't take Genesis 24 as a chapter instructing people on how to find a mate. Isaac, as the promised son through whom a nation was to come was guaranteed to get married and have children. That is a unique story in the Bible, therefore it should not be seen as a pattern for everyone. God has never guaranteed you that you will get married, so following Isaacs pattern could be a dead end for you. Isaac's father's servant was sent to find a wife for Isaac and he picked the girl who came out and watered his camel. If this story is a pattern for us, as Gary Friesen has written, we should go to the local gas station, and the first girl who comes out and offers to put water in our radiator, we should propose!

Second, "waiting on the Lord" is not a passive activity. I wait on the Lord to bring people to salvation, but part of the waiting upon God is an active witnessing on my part. The sex drive is an integral part of every human male. The desire to have the physical pleasure and to have offspring is put in the heart of man by God. The results of those things are a benefit to every man who enjoys them, even if they are not saved. It IS God's will for men to marry and has been since God commanded Adam and Eve to "be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth". To pursue a wife, is to pursue God's will. To refuse to pursue it is to resign ourselves to a misery which God saw in Adam when he was alone in the garden. To end that misery, God made the woman so that he would not be alone. In light of this, my advice to an unmarried man who wishes to be married is "go for it!"

 

My parents were not Christians and would have liked me to marry someone who was not. I became a Christian shortly after graduating from high school. I am glad that I never listened to them at the time. However they think the wife I picked is the best. I prayed that God would give me a wife who would be a witness to them. He certainly did that and much more.

 

I believe the assumption here is based on Biblical principles staring here:

Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

The first assumption to be made here is that the decision is "in the Lord," which in the case of marriage would be that both partners would be saved. Marrying an unsaved person is against the will of God and is not "of the Lord."

 

I can't think of Biblical opposition, but I just plain don't like them. I think that with internet dealings, one can NEVER be too careful!