Okay, I am really going to get into the hotseat with this one but its a valid question and one I am seeking valid answers too. I am divorced and remarried. I got pregnant at age 16 and was made to marry by my mother. When I divorced my husband I was not walking with the Lord and to be honest I don't even know if I was a Christian. There were many issues for the cause of my divorce but still I will not make excuses. I later re-married a man that had never been married. 5 years ago we both gave are lives to Christ. Under church rules my husband may not serve in a leadership(deacon position ect.) because he married a divorced women. The Bible is clear that if you marry a divorced women you commit adultery. But it was before he became a Christian. Okay there are others in the church that have married a women/man with a child that has never been married but they can serve in these positions because the women/man they married was never married. But they did have a child with another man/women. I thought there was Scripture that said if you lay with a person they are your husband/wife. Just curious on your thoughts. Please don't beat me up to bad, I just want to hear your thoughts and most important supporting Scripture.