I have been studying effective communication the majority of my life. It began with the same basics everyone in life gets - lessons in reading and writing, then english classes and essays. I took that part of my education further. My original field of study in college required an understanding that subtle differences in what is communicated vs what someone wants to communicate. "He said the grass is green" = Statement of fact. "He said the grass is green." = Indication of doubt over whether or not the grass is green or not. "He said the grass is green." = Indicated of blame. "He claimed the grass is green." = Doubt. My lessons in communication went further than that. When I began doing counseling one of the things we learned was that the vast majority of fights between couples revolve around what someone says vs what someone else hears being said. Remember the old joke that goes, "Which dress makes me look less fat?" "The red one." "Oh, so you think I look fat in blue?!" When all the person really meant was, "I like the red dress?" I see a LOT of careless communication on this board, and then when responses to the message conveyed by the post are not what they expected, the person leaps up and goes, "You're lying!" When in fact, the problem is NOT that the second poster lied, it is that the first poster did a poor job of communicating. If you think someone is misquoting you, if you think someone is "twisting your words," how about taking a Christian attitude and saying, "Wow, didn't realize my words came across that way. That isn't what I meant. What I meant was: .... Thank you for pointing out that it could be taken another way," instead of the bitter, back biting, "You lied about me!" childish name calling that is going on around here? That would save a LOT of time, and be much more Christian. When you come back with, "You liar," you end up hurting your own cause. 1) You've offended another Christian. 2) You have done nothing to correct any communication errors that are going on. 3) You force the person to pick your post apart, thereby justifying their intrepreation that you think is wrong. On the other hand, a simple, "Wow, didn't realize it would be read that way. It isn't what I meant, this is what I meant," does the following.... 1) If comes much closer to how the bible would encourage Christians to interact. 2) It sets an example to non-Christians. 3) It doesn't lead to the other person having to pick your post apart to explain why they read you incorrectly, thus strengthening the reading you dislike, and causing others on the board to divide in the debate. 4) It gives you a chance to re-state what you really meant in a different phrasing that can leaves no doubt.