My parents are both saved individuals who have been faithful their whole lives to the Lord. They have 3 grown children.Myself, along with my two younger sisters,who are both in their early thirties. Both of my sisters have been divorced once. Both of them claim to be born again yet both of them married unsaved men the first go around and now both of them live with two unsaved men. My one sister has been living with her boyfriend going on six years. Thank the Lord neither of them had children with the their first husbands nor do they have any kids with the boyfriends. Now that brings you up to speed.Here is my question to those of you out there on the board. My one sister is going to our parents house for Christmas. My mother is going to let them sleep in her spare bedroom. If it were me I would not do that. If it were my own daughter (BTW I have 3 daughters) I wouldn't even let them do it in my house. When I was in bible college my sister was living with her first husband before they were married. She wanted to come down to visit my wife and I along with our one daughter at the time. I told her they were welcome to come but they could not sleep together under my roof. Well, my sister went off the deep end. She told me where to get off at etcc.... My mother called me and gave me the business as well. Yet my sister calmed down and she did come down to visit all the while abiding by our request to not sleep together. We had a great time. Her boyfriend although lost respected our convictions. So, my point is this: My parents have never stood their ground like they should when it came to my sisters and the men in their lives. (IMO). As a man with 3 daughters my patience with my sister's boyfriend would have worn out by now. After promising to marry her for 2 yrs. now and not doing it. I believe I would have a few questions for Mr. boyfriend. My parents have always had the idea that if you come on to strong you might push your kids away and they will never come back. Well that my be true in certain instances with certain kids I don't know. I do know this though. That kind of thinking hasn't produced positive results with my sister. She is 34 with a one failed mariage. She has never dated a christian in her life. She hasn't been faithful in church since she was a teen. She has been sexually promiscuous since a senior in high school. That goes for both my sisters.They are just ruining their lives. I pray for them daily. I try to offer advice with tact when the opportunity arises. They don't like to hear much from their older, brother who is a minister. How my parents dealt with me and how they dealt with my sisters growing up was totally different. I was a boozer, dopehead and eventually a high school drop out. They gave me the ole tough love that eventually led me to get right with God. I know I have went around the fence to get to the barn but I just think that at some point in time my parents (for the good of my sisters) should draw a line in the sand and say "look,fine if you want to live with your boyfriend your business but when you come to our house it is a christian home and there will be no "shakin up" under our roof. Don't misunderstand me now. I just came from said sister's house near Myrtle Beach where they live. I stayed down there two weeks while painting the inside of their house. She is my sister and I love her I'm not going to turn my back on her. My 3 girls ages 11,9 and 4 know that their aunt loves them very much. But they also know that their aunt's lifestyle is not pleasing to God. We simply pray for her. We don't want our daughters to get the idea that we look lightly upon their aunt's lifestyle. It is one we definitly don't want for our daughters. So would you or would you not let your daughter sleep with her boyfriend over the holidays at your home if your daughter had a history like my sister has? I must admit that my two sister's behavior has produced tension in our family for a while. I haven't shared these thoughts about what I have just mentioned with my parents. I figure they have been believers going on 30 plus years . It is their daughters and it is their home so I just don't bring it up hardly ever at all anymore. What say ye in baptistboard land?