First,I'm not a pastor but want advice and thought this would be the best place. My husband and I have recently become concerned with the deacons and the selection process at our church. Brief history: pastor resigned 12/31 to take mission related job, which we know is his "true" calling. Don't get me wrong, church family is great and people are really stepping up to fill the gaps. I guess my main concerns are: we have a church of 1000 with average 500 attendance. We have a Monday night visitation event, which so far averages about 6 people (pitiful, isn't it?) Only one deacon attends regularly and another when his job allows. each deacon is assigned a small number of families to whom he is supposed to minister. In four years, we've heard from our deacon once. Some people (including the youth assistant!) didn't even know they had their "own" deacon because they have NEVER been contacted. having recently read the bylaws, we realize that they have not been followed in the deacon selection process in the years we've been at the church. there has been no interviewing or investigation (for lack of better word) of prospective deacons. rather, it's been mostly a "popularity-type" vote. So here's our question. What can we, as laypeople, do to: 1) inspire the deacons to do that to which they have been committed? 2) ensure that the bylaws are followed in future deacon selection or even (Gulp!)... 3) get the bylaws changed to ensure more accountability from the deacons? Thanks for any advise.