Are there truly any churches out there who love and respect their pastor, are spiritually grounded, willing to serve and work without complaint, don't constantly condemn and criticize the pastor and his family, willing to follow Matthew 18 and not get easily offended over petty things? Are there really churches like this that exist or is it an impossible rose colored mirage? I'm trying to figure out if we're just in a bad area, in the wrong denomination of Baptist, or if all churches are just preacher killers by nature. I'd really like to find a church WITHOUT the attitude that the pastor and his family are their personal property to use, abuse, and destroy physically, mentally, and financially. In our years of ministry, so far we have only seen two extremes: The first extreme is where the pastor is the boss, the sole authority of the church and the people are his little puppets. The second extreme is where the church is the boss and does not truly want a pastor, but wants a young couple to keep the pulpit filled, the grunt work done (and they will supervise and critique EXACTLY how it should be done without them lifting a finger) and who burn out pastors and their families at the speed of light only to "find another one" to repeat the whole process again. If there truly are any healthy churches out there, how does a godly man find one to pastor?