I've been married coming up on five years now and have a 3 year old and 9 month old. If I were to kick off my wife would get a pretty large chunk of change from life insurance and an even larger chunk of change from accidental death and dismemberment insurance (depending on the details of the Lord calling me home). But either way, she would need to get remarried to both provide a male figure in my daughters lives as well as support her for the long haul (even if the next 10-15 years would be easily covered). It is hard for me to imagine her failing in love with someone else, and I have made her promise not to love him as much as me , but it still seems like the best thing. But I have met couples recently who think the whole dating, remarriage, change process is bad and have promised NOT to remarry until the kids get older. So, I ask, what are all your thoughts on the matter? As an aside, if my wife were to die, not only would I still be able to support myself (since I am already the bread winner) but I would also recieve quite a bit of life insurance for any new daycare type costs. But I would also want a "mother" for my daughters (though no one could ever replace their real mama) but I find the prospect of meeting someone else and failing in love next to impossible. What affect will it have on my children if I am a single dad for the next twenty years?