Do mission boards instruct missionaries in proper etiquette while on deputation or furlough? Are there some helpful guidelines somewhere for pastors/churches who entertain missionary guests. While our church supports some WONDERFUL missionaries, we've had some rather awkward experiences with "new" folks who came to the church while on deputation. In one instance, they stayed in the prophet's chamber and completely trashed it and the church nursery. I had to clean up urine, dried food stuck to the carpet, trash everywhere, etc. Recently we had a young couple visit our church (they were on deputation and didn't have a church to attend that night, so they visited ours.) We didn't know them at all, but since they were missionaries, we let them help themselves to the missions cupboard and we took them to dinner after church. They were very rude to the employees at the restaurant, much to our embarrassment and irritation, and after conversing with them throughout the meal, we knew our personalities would clash if we spent much more time in their company. My question is, what should a pastor or host family do in situations like this? Should we contact the mission board and complain of their bad behavior? Politely tell them to pay for their own meals or damages to the place of accomodation? Tell them not to come back? It's even more awkward when the church folks don't know of the bad behavior and want to financially support them, and you don't want to gossip about the visitors.