Hi. I come here because i don't know where to go, i don't have many friends, and none that i'd like to talk to about that. Today, my wife made a test because she felt sick, tired, and was late on her "things". She then bought a test, and it is positive. She was sad to tell me because she knew, last year when she asked, that i didn't want another kid. But we tried, even if it made me anxious, but didn't manage. Time passed since then, and everything was fine. I'm 37, my wife will turn 40 in may, we have two daughters, 11 & 9. When she told me, I said " Lord, i accept the gift you're giving us ". That's true, i wasn't so scared first. But hours passed, and while driving my oldest daughter, i thought about what it will change. We have a big 5 bedrooms house, so we don't need room. We have enough income, so money won't matter. Don't feel offended about what i'm going to write, that's just my " opinion " after a few hours after " the news ". We were planning to travel very much ... it is over now. We were planning a big trip in USA next year ... it is over now. We were planning to move in a few years ... it is over now. Our parents are old, the kid won't probably know them for long. Our daughters are 10 years older, the kid won't probaby have such a relation as his/her sisters have of friendship & complicity. I've always been so happy we had our kids as we were " young ", so that we both have much time together at mid 40s my wife and me that i feel bad, and totally panicked about many things. Back to nappies and all these things ... I'll be 55 when the last kid will be 18 One thing I know for sure, is that we'll love that baby as our daughters, that we'll do our best to help him grow in love and in a good environment. But for now, i feel kinda wasted, down, i only see negative points at the idea. In fact, i have the feeling all our projects, our life plan, are broken. For sure we'll build a new one, but I don't have the mindset yet. I feel ashamed to tell you all that so directly, but i have no one to talk to. Lord, help me see and follow the way you want me to follow, give me the heart orientation. The Serenity prayer is what comes to my mind : God, grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change The courage to change the things that I can And the wisdom to know the difference.