Help Needed With Daughter's Choice

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  1. righteousdude2

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    My 39 year old daughter continues to believe that she is saved and going to heaven even though she is practicing an abnormal, unnatural form of living.:tear:

    I love her, but, like the Scripture, I cannot condone her unorthodox, ungodly lifestyle.

    Are there others on the forum that have the same problem and have any suggestions beyond prayer, to get her back to following Jesus in regard to her choice to live and love another person of the same gender.:BangHead:

    Shalom,

    Pastor Paul:type:
     
  2. twpaige

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    Blessings to you and your family, Pastor! I'm a simple layman and have had some dealings with kids not living the way they're supposed to live and it's difficult to deal with. I take solace in the fact that the child in question IS saved and a child of the Lord and cannot possibly lose their salvation. They are indeed going to heaven someday, but will most likely lose out on many rewards that they could possibly get.

    Rest in the Lord, brother and let the Lord work through them and you for his glory. Love your daughter unconditionally.

    I'm praying for you and her.

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    I try to show first of all that what they're doing is a sin. From there, we can show from Scripture that those who are indwelt with the Holy Spirit do not continue in sin. Yes we'll fall but we'll not willingly and blatantly continue in that sin. If we do, we seriously need to question if the Spirit is truly in us. Unfortunately, many will just decide that God is all-forgiving and it doesn't matter what they do and that leaves us to the end of our rope - prayer. I'm so sorry about your family's struggle.
     
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    Prayer is the most powerful thing you can do. We pray and wait on God.
     
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    I have three kids between 39 and 25. At the time I was marrried to a young lady in the Catholic church. The oldest is now is in a touchy feely non-denomination church. The second appears to have no church affiliation. The third gets what religion he gets from televangelist. None by Baptist standards would make me comfortable. However , I never underestimate what God can, and may do. I myself was in the deep throws of alcoholism during my thirties and had no interest in the things of God. I did pray often for him to fix problems I encountered or caused. My best advice is to pray and wait on the Lord. He seems to have a pretty good track record in dealing with sheep!!!!!!
     
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    I'm there with you, Paul. My daughter tuned her back on God and has went out into the world. We continue to pray for her and to show her love whenever we can, but without condoning her choices.

    She recently had a falling out with her boyfriend and stayed over here for a couple of nights. She called to ask if it was OK for her to come both nights which hurt my wife (she's our daughter and will always have a place with us). We thank God that she was willing to reach out to us when she was in need and that we were able to show her God's love during that time. It didn't bring about any change, but it will stay in her heart and mind.

    I will be praying for you, your daughter, and your situation, brother.
     
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    Both of our sons have lived away from God for a long time, not what we raised them to be like. But one is back in church and fully dedicated to living with God His way. The other one not interested in anything chirsitan.
    Kids have a way of disappointing us, because we set where we want them to be, but their adults and make their own choices.
    So when I say prayers is all you can do, and only God has the power to change them I speak from experience.
     
  8. Tom Bryant

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    She's at an age where the only real authority or power over her is prayer. Don't squander the opportunities to love her but you don't have to make every conversation about her sin. She knows how you feel about what she is doing, but make certain she knows that in no way it changes your love for her.

    Praying for you all.
     
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    Amen, Brother! Love her, love her, love her!
     
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    I know just were your coming from I have twins who are 28, both are living a lifestyle I know is not pleasing God, I've talked till I blue in the face. I now have asked the Lord to do what He has to do to bring them back to Him. That is a hard thing to do also, I have 5 grandchildren.
     
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    This may be your best option, Paul. I agree that it is a hard prayer to pray. Being a Dad sure is tough sometimes.
     
  12. just-want-peace

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    My daughter was leaning in the wrong direction when she first went to college. Nothing real bad at this point except that she was very, VERY much into the "social "lifestyle. She had an opportunity to have a local family sponsor her for some social event in this town that usually included the father.
    However I told her that whether she accepted the invite was her choice, BUT that I did not approve and was not going to be a part of the scene.
    Course I was the "mean old Dad", but she declined and things sorta stayed the same for several months.

    Then she was home for Christmas break her sophomore year, and naturally the social life was real obvious again.

    I was working on a SS lesson one night and thinking about her, and God put the notion in my head to write her a letter.

    I've always been able to write my sentiments far better than verbalize anyway, so I started.

    The gist of the letter (4 handwritten pages) was:
    1 That I loved her no matter what,
    2 That legally she was an adult now, and the only influence I had over her NOW was whatever she allowed,
    3 I wanted only the best for her, and God likewise, and I was not going to interfere in her choices in life except thru prayer and/or at her own request,
    4 She is now responsible for her own choices and any consequences of same,
    and last, but certainly not least
    5 I, as her earthly father, was turning her over to God to handle as He saw fit

    I also told her that I sure hoped that God would not have to knock her flat on her back so she would look up, but if that's what it took, well-----!

    She is 41 now and her walk with Him is far stronger than mine, and I thank God profusely for that!!!

    Don't know if there are any seeds here you can use, but all I can recommend is turning her over to Him, and let her know what you have done and why!!

    May God richly bless your efforts.
     
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    Thanks

    Thanks for your heart felt response and prayers.
     
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    Thanks to EACH Member

    This is the first time I've written the Board and received so much care and heart felt concern. I thank each of you for solid, Christian love. Each of you sound like wise parents, and I hope to glean a ton of ideas to deal better with this daughter.

    Passtor Paul:type:
     
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    You are in a position where you must trust God. Be patient and pray. Wait on Him.
     

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