Hey women....shut up and calm down.

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  1. Bro. Curtis

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    http://www.hhs.gov/news/healthbeat/2013/11/calm-down.html


    From the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, I’m Ira Dreyfuss with HHS HealthBeat.

    This isn’t about who wins the argument – but a study of hot marital fights indicates that when the wife calms down, the couples are more happy. Researcher Lian Bloch of the Pacific Graduate School of Psychology in Palo Alto found that in a study she did at the University of California, Berkeley. She looked at data that included recorded arguments by long-time husbands and wives.

    “The marriages that were the happiest were the ones in which the wives were able to calm down quickly during marital conflict.”

    Bloch says calm wives were able to look constructively for ways to deal with the emotions and talk about ways to solve the problems. Happiness didn’t change if the husband calmed down quickly.

    The study in the journal Emotion was supported by the National Institutes of Health.

    Learn more at healthfinder.gov.

    HHS HealthBeat is a production of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. I’m Ira Dreyfuss.

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    Wow, I do not even know how to respond to those conclusions. All I can go by is 37 years of marriage and observing marriages of others I have known for a long time. I cannot see any merit in one gender over another calming down quicker. First of all, happiness is an external emotion that comes and goes. For the Christian couple, I think the term that binds the marriage together in more on the level where the soul resides, and the term is joy. The joy binds the two partners together with Jesus Christ.

    Every marriage has its disagreements and fights. I once had a deacon come up to me right after I got married and say, "I have been married over fifty years, and we have never had a fight." The only conclusion I could come to is that either he was lying, or the wife was scared to death of him.

    I guess I would be wary of anything the government put out in a study that is so intertwined with the Christian life. It seems to me that the longer one is married, the more love grows in Christ, and the more joy there is to share with each other. The disagreements should lessen as each partner comes to know the other person with Christ guiding their marriage.

    Maybe my response is way off track from the intent of the thread, but I cannot see any merit in one person calming down before the other. Both should be working with each other through Jesus Christ to establish a lifetime of joy and a solid family.
     

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