SO i have a friend of mine I have been trying to help for the last few years. She has 21 years old and has 2 kids, one of the kids was murdered last year, the kid was in the custody of her aunt, because my friend who I shall name as L from now on, was irresponsable, was drinking alcohol, and the father and her were abusive to her. She was homeless for a long time, jumping from house to house, until she eventually gets kicked out because of her behavior, her 2nd child was recently taken away from her for irresponsability. She gets arrested about every 6 months. SHe is currently living with my mother, after getting kicked out of her grandmothers house. My mom told her she needed to straighten up, but she has been drinking lately and my mom is getting really angry, I am not there because I'm at bible college. my point is this: She never takes responsability for her actions: She blames her first child being taken because "her family is evil" Shes drinking now because of everything that has happened she says "you dont know what im going through" Long story short, she doesn't take responsibility for her actions, blames everyone else for her problems, and never admits when she has done wrong, she just has an attitude of self defense and pride. She claims to be a Christian, but I have seen very little fruit of repentance. I believer she is probably a false convert. of course I don't really know. I have no idea how to deal with her, I have been doing everything to help her, taking her to church when I can, I talked my mom into taking her in. But it just seems like shes taking advantage of my mom, which really upsets me. How do you deal with someone who behaves in such a way? Part of me feels as though she needs to be put out on the streets until she ends up with absolutely nothing and will genuinely repent and turn to trusting God, which it does not seem she is. part me wants to be merciful ,but fears she will just take advantage.