I put this in debate although I don't expect debate on this - but I didn't think "fellowship" was the right place either. How do you counsel someone who is in severe grief - when it's really beyond what is normal? In this case a congregant lost her father in the summer and she's literally not able to function. She's still answering "How are you?" with "Not well." Her father died of cancer and he was in his 80s so it's not like he died young. I'm such a bad person with this because I just don't have those kinds of long-lingering, overwhelming feelings. I kind of want to say "Get over it" but I know that's not right!! So how would you counsel someone like this?????