I'm a moderator on another Christian forum. Myself and two other members - one male, one female - moderate the counseling forum. We get many people who are deeply troubled and I mean have serious issues. Most of them are Christians, but some are not. Yesterday, we got a post from a young man who suffers from scrupulosity. I know that you are familiar with that - you just probably never knew what it was called. It's when one suffers severe OCD type thinking that one can lose their salvation or make God angry by using the wrong color toothbrush or changing the radio channel before the song is over. Remember the old adage we learned as a child - "don't step on a crack or you will break your mother's back"? Well multiply this ridiculous thinking ad nausem times in the area of religious beliefs. Myself and a few other competent people have counseled him briefly. My biggest counsel in areas like this are to seek competent medical attention, experts, and secure a competent spiritual advisor be he a pastor or be he or she a layperson. I always advise not to get to attached to the words and advice given by strangers on the internet. We are not experts and I always give that disclaimer. Here's my problem. The young man is convinced that his mental state is going to cause God to reject him. He is so very tired. I'm not certain that he is confident in his salvation and I KNOW that he isn't confident in the security of the believer. I just checked the thread and he asked, "...so, are you all saying that I can't do anything to lose my salvation?" One of the moderators in that forum who is a wonderful person replied, "Sure you can .... just turn your back on God." I'm so angry. This is his WHOLE problem. He believes that there are things he can do - stupid things, silly things - but they are real to him that can cause him to be "unsaved". He calls it "bargaining away my salvation in my thinking and behavior by attaching my salvation to these things that I obsess about." I NEED to talk to him about that, but if I do in the public thread, it may start a debate about OSAS and that thread has no place for debate. But I also need to address that comment publicly. Or do I? Should I just send him a private message? What would you do in my place? I know that I'm very sharp with my words sometimes here. But I am very careful there not to do so as a moderator. Do I address this publicly or privately?