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Discussion in '2000-02 Archive' started by donnA, Dec 2, 2002.

  1. donnA

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    I do not send people bad pm's so as I can look good in public and still be able to bash them, and I would appreciate it if people would give me the same consideration. If you don't like me, I don't care. I don't like some of you either, but I don't send you pms telling you so. I don't sneak around anyone's back to say anything. If I have something to say to you or about you I'll do it publically.
     
  2. Helen

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    Katie, actually we prefer that the insults NOT be aired publicly. We do not want these forums hitting the gutters. If something gets bad, please feel free to share with a moderator or administrator what is going on. If some kind of 'slashing' is going on behind the scenes, we probably should know about it if it pertains to material on the board.

    Would you believe this is supposed to be a relatively friendly place? [​IMG]

    A lot has happened recently and there are a lot of hard feelings among many right now. Let's keep things as calm as possible and submit it all to the Lord in prayer. He's the only one big enough that I'm aware of to handle all of us together!

    God bless you.

    In Christ,
    Helen
     
  3. Joseph_Botwinick

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    I agree with both Helen and Katie. That was a very good word from both of you.

    Joseph Botwinick
     
  4. Mike McK

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    Katie,

    If it makes you feel any better, I've been having just the opposite problem.

    I've had a couple of people pretending to be friendly in PMs and then being absolutely vicious in public.
     
  5. Wisdom Seeker

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    I've only been away for a few days... what on earth has happened?

    The B.B. posting rules say to take personal things up with the person privately in P.M. not in the public view of the board.

    Wouldn't it be nice if everyone posted to a topic...instead of to the person saying it? That is what the Webmaster has asked us all to do.

    As to what Helen said about taking it to the moderator when things get really bad... I've been attacked vehemently in P.M....and mentioned it to a moderator, not on purpose, but because I was troubled and she was already trying to make me feel better. It made all the difference. The attacks stopped immediately.
     
  6. Gina B

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    Mike, that's because we're for the most part addressing issues on the boards and not the people themselves.
    When I PM someone personally, I'm talking to them personally. So I'm a lot "nicer" than I would be directly addressing an issue/thought.
    Gina
     
  7. Abiyah

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    It really blows me away that either of you, Katie
    or Wisdom Seeker (and I know Helen is attacked,
    but I guess that comes with being a moderator)
    are being personally attacked in the PMs. The
    unadulterated audacity--that anyone would pre-
    sume it their responsibility to attack another is
    pretty weird.

    Give me a break, people! No one has attacked
    me yet, but I suppose my day is coming.

    Sure, I get PMs from people who disagree, but
    not with the viciousness these ladies are appar-
    ently experiencing. I presently have one PM of
    disagreement with me still sitting in my PMs, but
    the person was congenial and gentle in his post.
    He is a good man with good intentions; we just
    don't always see eye-to-eye.

    What about "Let your light so shine . . . " in public
    and in PMs?

    Most use the PMs to find understanding, in my
    opinion. I have, of recent days, found a real
    friend in someone, because of her PMs, even
    though we don't agree on everything.

    - - - - - - - -

    Mike --

    Just wondering: did you find any of your music
    I could buy? 8o)

    [ December 02, 2002, 05:40 PM: Message edited by: Abiyah ]
     
  8. GrannyGumbo

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    Well, I love getting email...private or otherwise. I love snailmail too. I will answer any & all, so send 'em on~
     
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    Because a friend felt that my message left some
    doubt that I believed Katie and Wisdom Seeker,
    when they related that they had been attacked,
    I edited my message above. Yes, I believe them,
    because of who they are. But I find it ludicrous
    that anyone would take such an action, I don't
    care who it is. And no, I don't know who attacked
    Katie.

    And now, I am going to do the Gump thing:
    And that's all I have to say about it.

    [ December 02, 2002, 05:46 PM: Message edited by: Abiyah ]
     
  10. donnA

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    Jut like Gina said we are addressing things people disagree with, and i feel that we should stick to that, insults and attacks should not be a part of, but some have not seen it that way.
    And I feel I should just clear it up before anyone wonders, no HCL has not sent me a pm, nor have I sent her one. I didn't want anyone think she had done something when she hasn't.
     
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    I'm with Katie, Wisdom Seeker and Granny G!! Just don't send me a "cotton-pickin'" virus!! If you do--your "neck of the woods" ain't gonna seem so big!!

    Your friend,
    Blackbird
     
  12. donnA

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    Once again I am recieveing hateful p.m.'s, can't somepeople just grow up and be an adult?
    I do not appreciate this people.
     
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    katie, have you asked via pm this person/s to please stop? Is there someway to not open them when you see who it's from? Or just delete it somehow? Have you tried just talking to them? Sometimes if you have ought against someone & tell them how you feel, they will try to reconcile. At least prayer always works well.
     
  14. donnA

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    Just letting the person know I have recieved your last pm and am deleting it without opening it. If you want to communicate with me you'll have to go through a moderator, and let them send your message to me.

    Granny, your right I am not opening p.m.'s from certain people from now on.
     
  15. Pastor_Bob

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    Katie,
    I would suggest using this member option.

    What is an Ignore List?

    Ignore lists apply to private messages only. Anyone you add to your ignore list can no longer send you a private message. You can put someone on your ignore list by viewing the member's profile and clicking on the "add to ignore list" link. Private messaging must be enabled on this site in order to use buddy lists.
     
  16. KeeperOfMyHome

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    Katie, if there is a problem with another member here, I think that the administrators/moderators are willing to help. If you'll PM one of them and alert them as to what is happening and who is doing it, they should be able to take care of it. I recommend possibly forwarding the hateful PM's to the moderator as well.

    Julia
     
  17. donnA

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    Thaks Keeper, I believe I am going to have to do that. I recieved a pm encourageing me to read it as they might have something nice to say about having insulting me, and they didn't, so I deleted it. Now it has occured to me I don't have the orignal one they sent me. Oh, no, I'm so dumb. So now that I did something so stupid, I guess I can't go to a mod.
     
  18. donnA

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    Thank you Pastor Bob, I didn't realize I could that here.
     
  19. Wisdom Seeker

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    Yes Katie...use the ignore list... That way you won't even know if your getting anything from that person...it cuts down on the stress level believe me. I have some people on mine...not many, but what are you going to do, when you ask them to stop, and they won't? Ignore...that's why it's there I'm sure... to make for a better B.B. experience... ;)
     

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