I'm taking the lead. This means setting the example and going to a church that I feel the Bible is best taught and in my situation this does means not continuing to attend a IFB church in my area. Going to a church that emphasizes the Doctrines of Grace, freedom in Bible translations, better music, a biblical view on alcohol, a biblical view on free will giving and does not preach tithing, a men's discipleship group, and a place where I fit in better. Also not excluding a biblical view on church government which is the elder rule model and away from the deacon yes man rule view. If she chooses to not come then we have a problem because the woman is to follow the man. I want to give to the church and with the IFB church I did not desire to give to them. Yes I'm taking the spiritual lead.