Ladies, I need ya'll's advice. Not so good background: Before we go further, I will mention the man's problems and then let's agree to drop that from the discussion . . . OK? I don't the thread to become offensive . . . OK, I am counseling a young man that is having marital problems. Yes, he is actively contributing to his problems with pornography . . . we have mentioned the greatest of his sins - let's leave that at that? Background Here is the purpose of the thread . . . I am a single man pastoring a small group of believers. I do not believe that I should bring this other family into my group that I pastor. (1) they have a 'pastor' (2) they would need a little healing first. So, I will be limited in what accountability and advice that I can offer him. I do feel a moral obligation because their current 'pastor' is going through a divorce. It seems that he and his wife would be willing to undergo 'therapy' or 'biblical counseling' and it does not seem that money would be an 'issue'. Her father was not as faithful as he should have been. And she endured a trauma from a man in her teens. So she is dealing with real trust issues as well.