Marriage, marital problems, divorce and remarriage!

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by righteousdude2, Dec 4, 2013.

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Regarding the Subject, I have....

  1. Been married only once...

    16 vote(s)
    66.7%
  2. Had marital problems, but we righted the ship....

    1 vote(s)
    4.2%
  3. Been divorced...

    6 vote(s)
    25.0%
  4. Remarried....

    5 vote(s)
    20.8%
  5. Remarried...after the death of my spouse...

    1 vote(s)
    4.2%
  6. Never remarried...after the death of my spouse....

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  7. Lived in sin before marriage [fonication], but was not born again at the time...

    2 vote(s)
    8.3%
  8. Lived in sin before marriage [fornication], but was a believer at the time...

    2 vote(s)
    8.3%
  9. Had an affair of the heart or mind [this includes use of porn]

    6 vote(s)
    25.0%
  10. Had an affair...of physical kind!

    2 vote(s)
    8.3%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. righteousdude2

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    A very candid poll will follow, so if you are faint with the idea or thought of being honest and candid, I'd recommend you stop right here!

    As Christians first, Baptist second, I'd like to know....
     
  2. annsni

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    Honestly, I'm so grateful to God for the life I've had. I married a great man, both of us have been extremely faithful, while we've had small issues, we've definitely not had any huge problem and we were both pure when we married. :) I know that we're in the minority.
     
  3. righteousdude2

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    Amen!

    First and most importantly, I rejoice with and for you and your marriage! I made several mistakes early on in life, and it was only after two bad choices, that left me broken and hurt, ended with a marriage to a woman who sounds a lot like your man! We are quickly approaching 34 years, and I have never looked back. In fact, I only wish I'd have met her earlier.

    To be honest, both ladies I married, claimed to be born-again, but I found our differently ten years into my first marriage and a year into the second.

    My wife has a gift of discernment, and she is always telling me that I am toooooo trusting, and that I take people at face value. She has certainly helped me over the last 33 years in seeing through the curtains people put up, and to see the truth before it hurts me!

    God continues to bless you and your husband, really, really good! :thumbs:
     
  4. HAMel

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    Been married going on 49 years.
     
  5. thisnumbersdisconnected

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    I've been married three times. Once in the Army (to a general's daughter -- brother was that a mistake! And the general agreed with me on that!) and again to a woman I met just before the end of my 20 years in. Neither marriage was a Christian marriage. My gambling issues due to PTSD ended the second marriage.

    I wound up raising my kids on my own when my gambling and legal problems led me to Christ. She, on the other hand, engaged in her own addictions and we didn't see her for years. That's another story.

    Now I'm married to a wonderful, beautiful woman whose mind and heart is on Christ, as is mine. It's a wonderful relationship, with Him at its center.
     
  6. Baptist Believer

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    That's a beautiful story of redemption. May God bless you and your wife!
     
  7. thisnumbersdisconnected

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    Thanks, brother! I thank God for bringing her into my life every day. :praying: :jesus:
     
  8. questdriven

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    I'm young and never been married. Maybe one day. (Am I allowed to post in this thread then?)

    My mom was married twice. First marriage ended in divorce (and I think she was right to end it) and she was a single parent for a few years. Her second marriage ended with the death of my stepdad last year.
     
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    My advice to you is to find some marriage "heros" around you. These are those couples who you admire for their relationship. Try to get to know them even more and especially how they deal with their marriage. Not every one of these will always have a perfect marriage and some of them will someday fail so don't get too discouraged but I found marriage heros to be a great tool for me to think about what I wanted in my marriage and it's strengthened our relationship. One example is a couple that I realized they always spoke so highly of each other in public and never put the other down. Ever. So that is a model I have in our marriage.
     
  10. drfuss

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    We have been happily married for over 52 years. We both are Christians and are mostly concerned about the happiness of the other.
     
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    Both my wife and I were Virgins until wedding night, and we never even kissed each other on the lips until we were officially hitched!

    We have made up for "lost time"....
     
  12. righteousdude2

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    That is a blessed stroy!

    and I say, "Good for the both of you!" :applause:
     
  13. Yeshua1

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    I can say that the wedding night was both the most anticipated and yet also perplexing time of our lives, as we were both realising that "practices makes perfect< as we learned as we went!
     
  14. thisnumbersdisconnected

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    Ooooo-kay! Now we're verging upon TMI, Yesh, way TMI! :type:
     
  15. Yeshua1

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    That is why I kept it humourous, as did not want to get TOO much in details!
     
  16. SaggyWoman

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    none of the above.
     
  17. Jordan Kurecki

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    Not married.. yet... (hopefully) lol
     
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    Paul, I have been happily married 37 years. All marriages have their issues, but as time goes on, the bond of love grows deeper.
     

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