What happens, in eternity, when a saved person's loved one is not saved? Does the saved person, who is in heaven at this point, remember their lost loved one? If so, how do they remember them? These are good questions and, lets keep in mind, questions that the Bible does not spend a lot of time trying to answer. Therefore there maybe some honest disagreement over this issue. However there are a handful of Scriptures that I, and others, believe give us at least a hint of an answer. The book of Proverbs tells us that "the memory of the righteous is blessed, but the name of the wicked will rot" (10:7). Those who have lived on this earth, and have rejected God's offer of salvation, will not be remembered in eternity. Their names will rot, their names will be no more. The Psalmist says, concerning the wicked, "may they be blotted out of the book of life and may they not be recorded with the righteous" (69:28). The names of the wicked will not be written in God's book of life and they will be cast into the eternal lake of fire (Rev 20:15). Their memory will be no more. What does this mean? In practical terms it means that when you get to heaven you will no longer have the same relationship with your unsaved loved ones. I don't know whether or not we will remember them in a personal way, but I do know that our relationship with them will be broken. Their names "will rot" and they are "not...recorded with the righteous". In eternity those of us who are saved will be able to see those in hell. The Word of God tells us that the saved "will go forth and look on the corpses of the men who have transgressed against Me. For their worm will not die and their fire will not be quenched; and they will be an abhorrence to all mankind" (Is 66:24). There is no hint that we will shed tears over them or mourn for them. The idea that is presented here is that we will, at that time, view them as the rightful targets of God's Holy Wrath. Whatever love or feelings we may have once had for them will be gone. In other words, God will not allow us to turn heaven into hell by mourning for our eternally damned loved ones (Rev 21:4). In some way, our memory of that person will be no more and our relationship with them will be totally changed. The memory of the wicked will rot and they will not be recorded with the righteous. To me, this represents both a wonderful blessing and a terrible curse. It is a blessing in that we will live forever with God and we will live with him in a joyful state. It is a curse in that our loved ones in hell will have lost all hope, all love, all joy, all peace, and they will have lost it for all eternity. What should this make us do? Witness to our loved ones and friends. Pray for them, pray that the Lord will work in their hearts and bring them to Himself. God can do this, but He has commanded us to do our part (Matt 28:16-20). Let us keep these things in mind as we debate theology on these boards.