Misconceptions about homeschool families.....

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  1. Molly

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    This may not be the correct place to post this,but I thought it might be read by more here,than in the homeschool forum. If you have to move it,that is fine.

    I've noticed from a few on the BB that they are misconceptions about homeschool families and how they live. I personally,would like to give a testimony as to why we homeschool and who we are...I think lumping all homeschool families into a stereotype is somewhat ignorant to the fact that there are many kinds of people and reasons for homeschooling.

    We homeschool because we love our children and see the mandate in scripture to teach our children about the Lord. You can do this even if they are in school(I'm not saying you can't)...I realize that,but my husband and I saw that our time with our children was way too short to accomplish this the way we thought it should be done. We desire to be the main influence in our children's lives and I LOVE to teach. This is our first year to homeschool and we love it! There are so many oppurtunities to teach them more than a public or even private school can give for example,we are looking into Latin for next year for our oldest daughter,wonderful math programs that excel over most schools,great Phonics based reading programs available,more intense bible study...There is just so much terrific curriculum choices available,and we want to offer those things for our children.It is simply our preference. We have seen many oppurtunities to be more involved in our children's lives by actually being the ones that shape their values and guide them to adulthood. We are looking into this as a long term thing,we are constantly in prayer that God will give us His grace in this great endeavor.

    I respect those who have chosen a simple way of life by living out in the country,and just having a simple way of doing things. I think there is much to be learned from this lifestyle. We have dear friends that have chosen that and they are great God fearing people. I'm fine with that....but not all families that homeschool fit that stereotype,so I would like to take an oppurtunity to share what kinds of people homeschool...doctor's,laywers,college professors,teachers,actresses and actor(What's her name(I'm blank) from Facts of Life homeschools her children and they are christians in hollywood). There are really all kinds of folks that do...in fact,some of the neatest,classiest people I know I have met through homeschool circles...it is not a taboo thing. The church we go to,most of the families homeschool,not because they can not afford christian schools,but because they just desire to do so...and yes,they are all kinds of people that do.

    I ,personally,think it is each families decision to do what they deem best..I don't think badly of anybody that sends their children to school,that is a personal family decision. This is just what we desire to do. We are very normal people...you would be amazed to meet us and see that! [​IMG] Maybe we can meet one day! [​IMG]

    Anyway,I just wanted to share with you guys my heart on this issue. I have seen some negative remarks about homeschool and just wanted an oppurtunity to say,it is really a great thing! No reason to think there is anything weird about it!

    Oh,and about us....we both went to state universities,were in fraternity and sorority,my husband works in the medical field,I was an elem school teacher before having our first daughter...I wish,now,I had been home even before children were born. Our children are very involved in sports,music,and other various things. Homeschooling has given us more time to approach these things more seriously. So,I said all this to say,we are all different,choose to educate our children in different ways,all from different income brackets,all have different viewpoints on things....but I just think there needed to be clarification on this misunderstood topic. Oh,I do wear makeup and I drive a suburban! :eek:

    [ December 22, 2002, 01:36 PM: Message edited by: Molly ]
     
  2. Refreshed

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    Thank you for your testimony, Molly! We're going to homeschool, Lord willing, for many of the reasons you cited, but would include that children are exposed to philosophies in public school that we would rather our son not be exposed to. Hey, I'm only 26 and was public schooled my entire childhood, I can remember some of the stuff they tried to do to us (ask me sometime about the extracurricular transcendental meditation class).

    We still have awhile for our son, though, he's six weeks old tomorrow!
     
  3. Molly

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    Refreshed,that is great. I commend you for already looking into it. We have always had the desire to homeschool and chickened out too many years. This is our first year and our daughters are 5th and 2nd grades.(We have another on the way in 6 weeks) We have always attended the homeschool conventions in our state and thought,this sounds really good,but we gave into our fears and got comfortable with them leaving us everyday while being in school. Now,it breaks my heart that we did nor begin sooner! But,no harm done.... Now,we are doing what God had already given us a desire for--and it has been a great joy in our lives!
     
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    Molly,
    There is an increasing number of Christians who are opting to home school, and this is an honourable thing. You certainly appear qualified to do it.

    In the small church I am working with on an interim basis, there are 20 families that home school. I just set up a weekly meeting for the mothers at the church where they can discuss their progress, problems and just plain old-fashioned fellowship. They are looking forward to it.

    They can bring their children, and another volunteer will work with them in the church gymnasium...sort of an hour-long recess. They will get to mingle with other children of like-mind, the mothers get a break and we all learn together.

    Blessings on you, and great success.....it is not easy, but with God, all things are possible.

    Cheers,

    Jim

    PS. I'll try to remember to let you know how the meetings go.
     
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    Excellent idea, Jim! [​IMG]
     
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    While we HAVE a "Homeschooling" Forum, I agree that this is acceptable to be posted here. There ARE a lot of false ideas and misconceptions about homeschooling and if some want to join in a single thread here, I think it is okay.

    And anyway, since I homeschooled MY three kids from 6-12th grade, I have been on the end of being misunderstood, maligned and villified. Glad to have a chance to set the record straight! :rolleyes:
     
  7. Molly

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    I just thought of this...is misperceptions a word???? Did I make that up? LOL! [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]

    I think I'll change it to misconception,that IS a word! LOL!

    [ December 22, 2002, 01:37 PM: Message edited by: Molly ]
     
  8. KeeperOfMyHome

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    Naw, your jes' one of them ignorint homeskolers what don't know there grammar and all. :D

    Julia
    Homeschooling mom of 5
     
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    With the poor quality of education many schools have to offer lately, I'm also noticing non-religious people opting to teach their children at home.
    So another misconception would be that all homeschooling families are Christians. Unfortunately that's not true, but fortunately the increasing popularity of it within the non-Christian ranks will be noticed by the government and they'll quit targeting Christian homeschooling families so often. :rolleyes:
    Gina the dreamer [​IMG]
     
  10. Molly

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    Do you homeschool,Gina? Or do I remember you saying you did at one time?

    I agree with what you said.
     
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    Molly, misperception IS a word.

    Great post

    My wife has been homeschooling my 3 boys 16,14 and 10 for 5 years now.Its very hard work!
    Many of our family members look down on us for teaching our Kids, but can't figure out why our kids know so much and are so well behaved.

    Keep up the good work.

    In this case the ends justifies the means!
     
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    It IS a word? OH GREAT, I don't even wanna know what misconception means then! I meant what misperception implies, but since she doubted the word I changed it. [​IMG]
    I homeschooled the girls until last year (not very long), when they entered public schools at grades K,1, and two. I now "supplement" the curriculum from school. The first is still quite beyond what they teach there, so for her it pretty much just involves all different materials (we use Christian Liberty Academy's curriculum for the most part), for the second two it involves just enhancing what they learned in school during the day. In the summer we spend a few weeks reviewing and preparing for the next year.
    I would have liked to continue homeschooling, but as I couldn't I find this to be a good way to handle it. Two love going, the one doesn't, but she just doesn't like schooling in any form, lol. For our family, this is the best of both worlds, and works with our situation.
    I never could stay within the lines. ;)
    Gina
     
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    Great post Molly! [​IMG]

    We are homeschoolers of nine children! [​IMG]

    Merry CHRISTmas to all! [​IMG]
     
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    One of the biggest problems of homeschoolers is the way the "others" want us to be monitored by the public school officials. They want us to be tested because thats they way they do schooling. They look at us as incompetant or slackers. Being under the scutinous eye of all the traditionalists, this should be a test in itself.

    Sometimes I go out of my way to avoid people, just because I don't feel like explaining "how it works".
     
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    I have come in contact with many home-schoolers in my church and through other contacts. And I am generally supportive of it. However, I am not sure that every misconception is a misconception.

    Some home-schoolers in my acquaintance really don't do a very good job. Some of them with several children including newborns and toddlers rely too much on the older kids for housework and babysitting instead of school work and then call it "domestic science".

    A number of home-schoolers have told me personally that they realize that their same child who is really ahead in reading and spelling is way behind in science and math. From what I have read on several home-school web sites, it is a recognized problem that in the neo-Amish part of the home-school movement,math and science are not being taught as effectively as other subjects. And math and science are involved in most modern jobs.

    In OK, it is very easy to home-school. There are home-schoolers that have no real standards or measurements for their kids. If the worksheet or two a day doesn't catch it, oh well, they will catch up later.
    Sometimes kids that have been home-schooled enter the private Christian school in my town. NOT every one of them is way ahead of his peers. A number of them are behind.

    As I said, I am actually supportive overall. But sometimes there is a real basis for concern.

    Karen
     
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    Are the children in reality behind, or just not accustomed to the school system? In my experience, the children are quite learned, but lack the regimen of a regular school disciplne of learning.

    They tend to pick up quickly, and soon pass many other students.

    In the public school system (private boarding all-boys school in England), we covered all the basic subjects, but I was not used to mixed classes, and it took me awhile to get used to it.

    I think the same may be true with home-schooled children who eventually integrate into strange systems of discipline.

    Cheers to the homeschoolers,

    Jim
     
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    After my daughter's disastrous second grade in
    public school, I home schooled both her and my
    son, then age 5. I took her out of public school
    because:
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    • witchcraft books which remained on the
      library's recommended reading list in spite
      of my complaints</font>
    • her teacher never learned her name
      throughout the whole year</font>
    • my daughter wept every morning because
      she had to go.</font>
    My displeasure with the witchcraft books is prob-
    ably self-explanatory.
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    The teacher called her by her aunt's name (the
    aunt had been in her class @ 7 years earlier), and
    I believe this was symptomatic of other deep-
    seated problems. I never got a note home with
    "To the parents of ____" with the correct name
    upon it throughout that year.
    .
    My daughter's kindergarten and first grade teach-
    ers were wonderful, and she was an excellent
    student; however, her grades that year dropped
    from straight As to Cs and Ds.
    .
    We were diligent with the classes, and I also
    used Christian Lliberty Academy's curriculum.
    But I had concerns about how long I could
    continue home schooling, because I had no
    confidence in my own education then.
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    We were doing fine, though, until my daughter's
    old principal reported me to the authorities,
    accusing me of child neglect, because I was
    home schooling. As a newly widowed mother
    with NO experience being in trouble with the
    authorities, I was Very Afraid! Unfortunately, I
    was frightened enough that they won, and I
    put them in a school.
    .
    However, the school I put them in was wonder-
    ful--Bryant Avenue Baptist in Minneapolis.
    The people there were fabulous, the teachers
    cared, and they were a great and highly-needeed
    witness to us all.
    .
    When my daughter started classes, she was right
    on target. However, while i declared my son
    ready for first grade, they put him in the kinder-
    garten curriculum--for a week. 8o) He was
    far advanced, especially in language and math
    skills.
    .
    I regret not continuing home schooling to a
    point, but had I not met the people at the Bryant
    Avenue Baptist Church, our lives would have
    been far poorer spiritually and emotionally.
    .
    Anyone who can successfully stick to the
    schedules and demands of fastidious home
    schooling should be commended.

    [ December 22, 2002, 10:09 PM: Message edited by: Abiyah ]
     
  18. TheOliveBranch

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    Are all the kids in the school system A students? Do none of them get D's or F's?

    I know that it is common practice not to hold back children anymore. This is not good for them, socially. Not every child is a mathemetician, or a writer. Rocket scientists? How much do I remember from school? I can probably remember being taught a few things from each grade, but because some homeschoolers are behind in certain subjects doesn't mean they aren't being taught. My kids know how to change diapers, clean house and cook. They drop what they're doing to help me. Is this wrong? When I got married, I knew nothing about a baby. I couldn't cook, and definitly couldn't clean the house. And mom wouldn't come over to clean it for me.

    Because homeschoolers don't follow a trditional way of teaching doesn't make them bad parents, and they really aren't abusing their kids. Why do we think it's wrong to teach them homemaking skills? In our house we are a family. We help each other and take care of each other. We trust each other. We are a family. Too much of the family values is lost today, and alot of it is because we are afraid to tell our kids to help around the house.
     
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    Me too Olive. Took me a while to learn too. I want my children to learn homemaking now, not after they are married. What a blessing they can be to their husbands if they can learn it before.

    HCL

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  20. Karen

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    Sounds like you do fine. Nothing there for me to disagree with. My point was that SOME homeschoolers that I have personally met overdo it, in my opinion, and do not get around to teaching academics enough because they OVER-emphasize the family domestic side. Both are needed.

    Karen
     

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