The Calvinist believes God offers salvation to people he has no intention of saving. The non-cal believes this exactly as much as the Calvinist does. The non-cal believes that God never had any intention of saving any person who would refuse his whole life to receive Christ as Savior. God has never intended, regardless of how much he wants to, God has never INTENDED to save people who do not repent. Both Cals and "non-cals" believe together that there are millions of people God knew would exist that God never intended to save. Do you see? The non-cal believes God has no intention of saving a man who dies refusing to receive Christ. Both Cal and non-cal believe God does not intend to save everybody. Non-cals pretend that this is just a Calvinist problem. It is not. The non-cal has to deal with the fact that God creates billions of people who he KNOWS will never repent- people who he KNOWS will die in their sins and go to hell- yet he creates them in their mother's wombs anyway. Why? Because God is willing that some should perish. Now, as for the elect, God is patient to USward, not willing that ANY of the elect should perish but that ALL of the elect should come to repentance. The point is this: this is a problem for us. Why would God offer salvation to people who he has no intention of saving? But it is not any MORE our problem than it is the non-calvinist's problem. The God of the non-calvinist knows he will not save a particular unrepentant sinner. Yet, God makes him anyway. God offers him salvation KNOWING he will never accept it. That is EXACTLY the same problem the Calvinist has.