Hi all, I came back from my mom-in-laws funeral Sunday. Most of my husbands relatives are not Christians and its interesting to hear what they think a Christian is. A lot of their misconceptions have to do with a list of do's and don'ts. The one key element that is missing is what Christ did on the cross and the idea of grace. This always seems overshadowed by how a Christian looks, how a Christian acts. That's usually followed by comments about Christians being holier than thou, intolerant, hypocrites (couldn't leave that one out), judgemental. Then I came back to the board and saw so much cannibalism is makes me want to throw up. I have asked my non-saved friends and relatives in the past why they don't perceive me in this way or if they do. Here are some of the comments: I smile a lot, I'm not preachy (which is interesting because I'm not shy to stand up for righteous), I don't treat them like less of a person because they are not Christian, I'm calm and not argumentative, I have a good sense of humor, I'm always concerned about how others are doing. This is not to boast, because I am very inadequate in so many ways, but there is a kindness from God that speaks volumes. It is our love towards one another as Christians that is a witness to the world. My mom-in-law did not come to Christ because I was condesending or preachy but because I accepted her where she was at. And sometimes I kept my mouth shut and I prayed a lot before I said anything. If we in the body of Christ could only accept each other for who they are in the Lord, stumble over each other with our encouragements and edifications. What a message we would send to those watching. What an impact it would make. I'm disheartened and tired. I cringe when someone asked me if I'm a Christian because I want to be identified with grace,mercy, love and kindness of the Lord. I find myself wanting to qualify what kind of Christian I am. Maybe it's heaven I'm looking for. It seems that's where my eyes go when this life gets ugly. It shouldn't be ugly in the church.