Today I preached from 1 John 5:1-5 and how truly loving our brothers means loving them with and attitude and view towards magnifying and keeping the commandments of God. In the 1st part I shared that one of the things that plagues humanity is the temptation to be "catch-phrase" theologians and cling to bits and pieces of scripture instead of the whole council of God and letting those catch-phrases be the measuring rod for our doctrine. My first example of this is how we define love with a Greek-Roman context and sometime a Hedonistic context. I specifically targeted marriage and how a woman might have this mindset of love and therefore she expects her man to buy her stuff and always say and do the most romantic things. When the man doesn't live up to her unhealthy and un-biblical expectation she divorces him and moves on to the next guy. In the midst of this little speech I made the comment that love means loving that man for who and what he is...a "dumb, screw-up" that is saved by grace. After that statement a man got up and took his family with him. My question is this....what that not an appropriate statement? If not where should the line be drawn for a pastor on what is and is not acceptable to say?