I’m looking for Christian advice on how I might council better in this type situation: My older sister at only 49 is having major health problems that in my opinion are due almost entirely to being obese. Petite-5ft 1in 110lbs first half of her life, small boned but now probably 240 or more. Many bone problems, back, shoulder, knee surgery, mini strokes, diabetes, digestion, and the list goes on, but now heart also. For a short break down of other factors I must consider; she suffers from depression, gets loving attention for her ailments, cries about her suffering, has many excuses why she can’t exercise and lose weight or even start, denial of cause, she is saved but has lived a hard disappointing life, basically feels it is the hand she’s been dealt. Just got a big lecture yesterday from the doctor confirming the weight issue, vented to me how insensitive he was and now I’m in hot water for telling her it’s the truth. My problem with counseling is that I can be very frank. She only wants sympathy and love-and I tell her I love her but sometimes love means truth and correction not just hugs. I’ve told her about glorifying the body, that Satan is lying to her that she can’t do it, that she needs to love herself and that being hard she also needs to consider she loves her children and how selfish it is leave them prematurely. We’ve discussed asking and allowing the HS to work in her life, putting aside the lies and handing in to God and agree it’s hard in this sin cursed world. I take a lot of heat from family for dare mentioning weight to her. BUT I KNOW it’s killing her. As for me, if a woman asks me to critique whether she looks fat in a dress, and she does, well, again more heat so why do they ask? If I go to someone’s new home I might complement the design or quality of windows, but when I point out a crooked wall, boy does my wife get mad. Aren’t I just being truthful? What am I to do? What am I doing wrong?