I am getting some red flags with the person I am dating. She claims to have left the Church of God 7th Day, but as I later have learned (obviously this was not advertised on eharmony and during initial conversations) she left only because of social reasons, but holds fully to the churches doctrines and thinks that this group is okay. These are some serious issues. Also the fact that her family never celebrates Christmas, Thanksgiving, and other holidays is another issue. On top of that she seems to be bi-polar. She goes on extremes of contacting me constantly, and then not much at all during mood swings. However from what I gather she does desire God, and there s a chemistry between us. Regardless perhaps it is time to sign up for Eharmony and Christian Cafe again. I do have profiles but probably will need to edit them and find criteria. Those of you that are married what are some good things to look for? Obviously finding someone in the local church is the best plan, it is not the only method, and plenty these days get married using these dating sites as our singles group has seen success stories. I have a list of criteria but would like to see other input.