Serious church concerns from online friend

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  1. dianetavegia

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    I got this tonight from an online / homeschooling friend. HELP! There are so many problems here and I hope some of you can share advice. I'll make sure she sees all the replies.
    Thank,
    Diane

     
  2. Pastor J

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    Diane,

    Based on the information that is in her email, I would recommend that the individual meet with the Pastor and his wife and discuss these issues. If the Pastor does not hear it, then she should find a new ministry that she can use her gifts and talents to the fullest.
     
  3. Bro Tony

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    How sad. If what she says is true, she needs to run don't walk. There are pastors and churches that spiritually abuse their people. The church body should be a place of healing and edification. If you cannot approach your pastor, for whatever reason, he cannot be your pastor.

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    "Hasta lavista" sounds like it would apply here.

    There are churches on almost any corner in my neck of the woods, some good and some not. But there is more than one. She could easily bless a different congregation.

    In Christ,
    Trotter
     
  5. Paul of Eugene

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    A church that allows a child to be abused has something very wrong with it. Find another church for the sake of the child! It is a must! And for the sake of the church, let them know why you are going elsewhere.
     
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    I can relate with many of the issues that your friend is dealing with. My solution was to leave the fellowship where this was happening.
     
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    I have to agree. Physical harm has been done to a child. Add to that the fact that is was done in church. We all know from watching the harm done sexually to children in Catholic parishes the hate for Christians, Christianity, and clergy that can breed. Harm to children goes well beyond the physical! Add to that a pastor who is unapproachable and a pastor's wife that appears like she's more apt to give advice than reflect and actually help a church member work through a problem, EEEEEKKKKK!

    Get away, quickly, or at least go "inactive," while you pray about it and visit other churches. Add Bible class for half an hour a day to substitute for Sunday School if possible. Even a fun Bible game could be helpful. I would also find out if there is a local association of home schoolers who are Christians. My own church here, while it does have its own Christian school, also serves as a meeting ground for home schooling parents and children; that could be very helpful too.
     
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    They need a new church where their true value can be realized. She may have physical limitations, but that does not stop her from serving God. What about prayer, writting, research and compilimg facts, she homeschools, that shows she is organized and can do research and fact finding, and can probably write too.
    No church should ever allow a child to injured, somethying should be done with the offending child, if they continued they should be removed from the situation to keep them from abusing other children, they return once they learn they can not do this, or the parent wants to sit in with them and assure they do not abuse.
    I agree try to speak with the pastor and his wife, try and make an appointment, if this does not work or it is not well recieved if she does get to talk with them, then find a new church, this is seems abusive, and playing favorites.
     
  9. FBCPastorsWife

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    Me and my husband encountered the same problem at our former church. The pastor did not visit anyone in the hospital. He didn't go on soul winning visitation and I never was able to talk to his wife.

    We prayed about it and God led us away from that church. If you have a pastor that refuses to fulfill the duties of his job...he is obviously out of the will of God in that position. And a church that has a pastor like that will not flourish.

    May the Lord bless you in this difficult time.
     
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    We left that church, or at least one just like it
     
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    We did too!
     
  12. dianetavegia

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    In just one instance, her little girl had her teeth knocked out! That's how serious the attacks were!

    I agree with all of you! Oh, and the mom includes Bible studies in her children's home schooling.

    Diane
     
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    Somebody else would be missing more teeth than my little girl!! :mad: :mad: :mad:
     
  14. Pastor J

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    I would also leave, but only after I had spoken to the pastor.
     
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    It's awful when children are afraid to go to church because they are physically in danger and adults in charge won't step in.
     

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