I work with kids in my church, and I'm also a deaconess. A couple from the community has just begun to come, and bring their four children. The kids are a joy to work with, and the couple are very pleasant folk. They seem to like our church and our new pastor. Here's the question: The man is divorced, and the two older children are his and his ex-wife's. The two younger children are theirs together and they are not married, I just found out on Sunday. She spoke to me about the two of them wanting to get married, in a simple manner, perhaps as part of the church service, and then provide cake and coffee afterwards. I of course, referred them to the pastor, but commented that the idea of the ceremony would be interesting of itself, not wanting to begin an exchange while they were picking up the kids from my classroom. I cannot speak for their salvation, or if saved, when in the sequence of events it occured. What would be your opinions (especially pastors) about conducting the ceremony at all, and/or in such a context? I don't think it's my place to quiz the pastor just yet on it until he speaks with them, and brings it up at a deacon's meeting.