Unsaved Parents

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  1. InTheNameOfLove

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    I am 14 years old and a believer. My parents are not believers, and my relationship with them has declined since I was saved. Does anyone else live this life?
     
  2. MissAbbyIFBaptist

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    I did right after I got saved. My grandpa {live with grandparents} was saved and he and I went to church everytime the doors are open...I still do, but he's not able.
    My momma left me as a little girl, and she wasnt' saved. I spent the first two years of my Christian life on my knees almost everyday beggin God to save her.
    My Granny was not saved, and did not understand why I now had a conviction about wearing only dresses, and why I was at church for everything. She of course thought me getting saved was "good" but she didn't want me to get "too into it." But I did. I spent A LOT of time at church and with my church family. I had never been taught to cook or clean, or really how to act! So the Ladies of the church took me on to disciple. There still teaching me things like cooking, cleaning, and what I need to know about being a wife and mom when the time comes. My granny was upset because these ladies took on the roll she didn't want, and that I was spending time with them. My situation is a little diffrent than yours because my grandpa IS saved, so he put his foot down, and allowed me to be at church most of the time.
    Eventualy my Granny, and my momma got saved. I'm still waiting for my dad to either get right or get saved. He really dosn't care much about what I do....it is sad, but in a lot of ways he's still a teenager...even though he is 34! But he still does the things young people do, without taking responsibility for the children he helped bring here! But I do love him, and I've gotta keep praying!
    Don't give up. Never. God can save them. Pray daily for them. PRay for them anytime they come to mind. Live your Christian life before them, in meekness, and have some convictions. When the notice a diffrence, they might ask questions because they want to know WHY you are diffrent. Use that time to wittness if they are open, but don't push it on them. Be respectful, and try not to lose your temper {I struggled and still do with my temper!} with them when you don't see eye to eye.
    But most importantly pray. Pray God would put them under conviction, pray God would save them. Never ever ever give up. I know a missionary couple that wittnessed to a woman for twenty years before she got saved. It took my mom two years. It's diffrent for diffrent people. I'll be praying for you, because unsaved family is tough dealing with.
    ~Miss Abby [​IMG]
     
  3. preecherboymatt

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    oh yeah,
    when i first started out as a christian both parents were lost. they never really thought that church was that important and they wanted me to think the same way. i understand how you can be going through a declining relationship with them. on your side of the fight you want to obey God but your parents probably want you to do the opposite. so when you obey God your parents think that you are rebelling against them or that you are making decisions that are making them look as though they are bad people. the same things happened to me, but after a while something happened, it appeared that all of the good decisions and the standings for christ, that my mom started to come to church, then got saved, then became baptised.dad is just as far away as possible but as long as you keep praying, and here is the key, you are told to honor your mother and father, so you have to obey them, even when they ground you from church you must obey them and pray for the choices you have to make and tell your parents why you disagree with them things will be alright. and perhaps Christ has planned to save your parents, and it will unwrap in time. its all a matter of prayer, faith and open communication. God has a plan , so no matter what you win, whether they stay lost or not God is in control

    matt [​IMG]
     
  4. InTheNameOfLove

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    Thank you, both of you. You know what it's like, unlike my other Christian friends;some of which who cannot even comprehend their parents not being saved. I do have an older brother (16) who is saved, so that does make it easier. (By the way, Miss Abby, I've read a lot of your posts, and sound like an awesome Christian. Rock on!)Goodbye and God bless! [​IMG]
     
  5. christiangirl4life

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    I kind of live that life cause my dad says that he is saved but he never goes to church or reads the bible. I feel really bad I'm writing this cause he says he is, but he just does not praise god.
    Sincerly,
    Chelsea
    Oh yeah everyone else in my family is saved!
     
  6. Ria0589

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    [​IMG] Hello! Im still a little new, but I had to reply to this post! I am 14 and live with my sister and her husband. My mother recently went home to be with the Lord on May 9th. Praise the Lord my mother was saved as a child and is now walking with our Saviour. On the other hand my father wich(I am know longer in touch with) is not saved. He was raised in Mexico and most people over there are Catholic, he isn't but he thinks God, church, and salvation are all a big joke. I pray for his salvation every night. I also wanted to say that I read the last post and they said that they were not sure weather there father was saved or not. The only thing you or anyone for that matter can do is pray, and to talk to them constintly about God. The thing is know one know's who is or isn't saved thats between them and God, but we still have to pray for there salvetion incase they are not. Thanks for listening and congrats on being saved!!! [​IMG]
     
  7. Sincere

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    I got saved when I was around your age and that is a beautiful thing because you get to grow up in Christ as long as you stay focused. Me, I strayed for awhile, but I got back on track.

    I was raised by my mother and my grandparents where my granmother was the only person saved around me. This is very hard for a young person because you are already facing puberty, peer pressures, and finding yourself. Temptation is going to be at it's very best to lure you away from God and without saved parents you have to depend solely on God, surround yourself by positive Christian people, and find yourself a saved mentor that can guide you in the right direction when faced with hard times.

    Continue to pray for your parents and maybe one day they will be saved too, but that is totally up to them to accept Jesus into their lives. You are not responsible for their salvation, only your own. All you can do is witness and teach others about the Word of God, and when you are an adult, married, and with your own children then you can teach and train your children in Christ, and then later on in life it will be up to them to choose as well.

    As Christians we have to accept that our family will not all be with us and we can never allow them to take us down with them. Now that does not mean to disrespect or think of them in a negative way, because you have to love and respect them the same, but you have to always stand strong on the Word of God.
     
  8. InTheNameOfLove

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    Awesomely accurate opinion, Sincere. Your name rings true. [​IMG]
     
  9. SaggyWoman

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    I became a christian when I was almost 11 years old. I went home from church that night and told my mom about it. She said, "oh, okay. Go to bed." :(

    Pray for them daily. Do what you can to not let them push your buttons and get mad--and they can since they are your family and know you well.

    Try to live by the Bible, but it will be tough. Pray for yourself daily.
     
  10. InTheNameOfLove

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    SaggyWoman, that truly makes me want to cry.
     
  11. Kayla

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    Both my parents are saved but, it seems as if they really don't care if they make it to church or not. I try to go every time I can. But, it doesn't always work. Hi, everybody I'm new ;)
     

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