Very dissappointed

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by ajg1959, Sep 4, 2008.

  1. ajg1959

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    I am dissappointed with my experience here in the BB. Certain folks are allowed to speak freely, and others are scolded. Certain folks are considered the "spiritually educated" and the rest of us are dismissed as ignorant.

    I dont have a seminary degree, and I dont pastor a church. I am not a politician but I have served as a delegate to my county Republican convention.

    I came here looking for some christian fellowship. I get that at church, but sometimes I am here at home and need more before the next service. What I have found is a few folks that genuinely care about others, and try to interact with them and listen to them. But most of the folks on here seem to be here just to argue. I admit that I argue when it comes to bible doctrine issues like abortion, but many on here seem to check every single word and analyze it to try to find a weak point to jump on someone for.

    I am sorry that I am not on the intellectual level of the pastors and seminary professors on here, but I want to learn just the same as them.

    Is it because I am relatively new? Does it take years to be accepted?

    When I check the board stats it always shows alot more visitors just looking than it does members. Do ya think that the visitors see what goes on in here and decide that they dont want to even apply to be a member of a bunch of folks that are condescending?

    I am not leaving the board, I have seen folks pull this and that is not me, but I am going to sit back for awhile and watch, and maybe by being on the outside looking in, I can get a better idea of who in here would actually make a good christian friend for me. I have found out that it is easy to get sucked into the arguments of the board, and once you are in, it is hard to determine who, if any, are your friends.

    Anyway, I voiced my opinion.

    AJ
     
  2. Amy.G

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    Hi AJ,
    I hope you don't leave. I think your posts are very good and I've enjoyed reading them.
    I understand though how you feel about the arguing. Sometimes I back off from the board for the same reasons. But I can't seem to give it up altogether. :laugh:

    Hang in there. :thumbs:
    I've learned a lot just because I've had to do a lot of studying to "see if these things are true".

    :1_grouphug:
     
  3. JamieinNH

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    AJ,

    This is the very reason I have not posted in a long while... This board in my opinion is more secular than Christian.

    You are correct, there are a number of people here that I respect and know they are genuine, but the for the most part the users here are lacking a lot of Christ-like traits.. up to and including some of the people in charge. I like you have been drawn into heated discussions, and when it's all said and done I look back and wonder why I allowed myself to be pulled into such crap..

    It's easier to me to stay away and lurk.... :( It's sad because there are things going on in my life I would love to discuss with other Christians besides just the people in my church, but you can't here..

    Jamie
     
  4. donnA

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    At one time here you were considered completely stupid if you didn't know greek, and had absolutely no understanding of scripture, and weren't worthy to post her. All because you weren't a greek professor.
     
  5. annsni

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    I have to say that the "nitpicking" that goes on here with words has really sharpened me a LOT. I see where my arguments has holes and not enough support. I appreciate the challenge, honestly.
     
  6. mcdirector

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    Hi AJ!

    I read, I post when I've got time and the inclination. There are great (and I mean GREAT) folks here. I've learned tons. Posting here has honed my reasoning - Reading here has expanded my what I know about Baptists.

    So, do what's good for you. It is ok to come in and out . . . :thumbs:

    Bitsy
     
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    I am of the very same mindset of all that have posted here. This board has indeed lost it's way.
     
  8. abcgrad94

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    Hang out on the fellowship forums for awhile and get to know people in the games threads where you'll have fun instead of debating. It's hard to stay mad at folks you can laugh with.

    By the way, don't let your lack of "Biblical knowledge" compared to others intimidate you. I'm married to a knowledgeable pastor and I have a degree in Bible from a great Bible college, yet many folks here will disagree or dismiss my opinions as ignorant. It doesn't matter. They have a right to be wrong. :laugh: ((snicker))

    Seriously, this board is not for the faint hearted. Take a little rest in the fellowship area before you venture out into the debate territory again. Many of us do this from time to time.
     
  9. Marcia

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    Maybe those who are disappionted should realize you don't seek fellowship in debate forums. Debate forums are for debating. I agree it can get a little heated there and sometimes people are unnecessarily rude, but that's the "dark side" of the debate forums.

    There are fellowship forums, including prayer, hobby, and discussion forums. Have you tried those??

    I stick to the debate ones for my own reasons, but I assume the fellowship forums are different. Maybe the disappointed people should try those.
     
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    ahhhhh and some of the ones that posted on this very thread are ones that I think so very highly of - because of a relationship that's not based just on politics or Scripture interpretation. ;)
     
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    Some things are worth noting, some not so fancy. Weigh all in the balance and discard that which is either fruitless or personal and get on with the sugar.

    A vacation at times benefits all.

    Cheers,

    Jim
     
  12. queenbee

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    AJ - as a recent newcomer, I can well understand your concerns. Your reasons for being here mirror many of mine. Marcia has rightly pointed out - it is generally a debate forum, so expect same and lots of heated discussion - we Baptists (in particular) LOVE to argue!. If you are wanting more spiritual support, some of the other threads are more appropriate. Having said that, there is a great deal of truth in what you stated. The BB is not for the fainthearted that's for sure as ABCgrad stated! I personally in the last few months, have taken the approach that I will try my level best to not get my shorts in a knot because XX or XX have condescended, insulted, ignored or spread gossip about me or others. My rule of thumb is Jesus and how he would want me to respond - it makes it infinitely far easier to handle the situation instead of getting steamed. I am not responsible for others' interpretation/reaction to my posted thoughts - that's their issue. One of the hardest things to do is to know when to leave well enough alone when you've posted. State your opinion politely, correct or edit your comments if you have created confusion and DON'T let the devil suck you into an argument that will demean you or a brother.

    By the way - thanks for having the courage to post this particular thread. You beat me to the punch.
     
  13. Grasshopper

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    Bingo! I agree with what you and Marcia said. I come on here to learn and debate. There's no better way to find out if you really understand what you believe than to defend it in an intense debate. I use this board as a learning tool not a fellowship forum. I'm sure though I would consider 90% of the people on this board a friend if I knew them personally but thats not what I use it for.
     
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    Or long haired women wearing head coverings in ministry serving the Lord's supper. :laugh:

    Actually I enjoy it here, but it is not to replace your church life. Do you all attend church regularly??
     
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    Bitsy is right------and this section of the forum IS for debateing

    I would suggest you go to the All Other Discussions forum------and start you a thread there-----or get involved in a current thread in progress-----The Coffee Shop(or whatever it is) is a good one to seek out cyber friends-------so is Pit Stop

    No fewer threads than what you have, PJ---Son---you ain't even gotten started good yet\

    So---meet the gang at Pit Stop or the Coffee Shop(kinda sorta smells like Powder Puffs in the Coffee Shop)----smells like car exhaust and burning cigars in the Pit Stop----take your pick-----but stay on board with us---shoot-------I've been on the BB since '02----and I remember reading Bitsy's posts when I was a little boy---also SaggyWoman----she's been a member here ever since she's been in diapers!!!!!

    See you on the board

    Bro. David
    aka blackbid

    I am a SBC preacher----and never have spoken a "lick" of Greek----Pig Latin---yes---Greek---no!
     
  16. Beth

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    Yes

    I'm sorry you feel that way, also. I think alot of this goes back to the limits on internet communication.....just isn't a substitute for face to face fellowship.

    Your sis in Christ,
    Beth
     
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    I hear you

    Jamie,
    I totally understand....I for one regret the time our Christian board was up...the arguing that went on in the name of debate was really not glorifying Christ. I've repented my part in those heated discussions as well....and I know your feeling of "why was I pulled into that in the first place!!"

    I'll pm you our telephone number....you are after all only a town away from us! About time we all met!

    Your sis in Christ,
    Beth
     
  18. dh1948

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    Maybe I have overlooked something, but I have not found the posts to be as described by some of you. Then again, I am not a prolific poster who is in the thick of every battle that arises.

    While I enjoy the forum and reading the various viewpoints, it may not be for all people.
     
  19. pinoybaptist

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    I joined in 2002 and am only in the 5000 posts club, for some of the unlikeable reasons cited.
    Lately, though, I have just been lurking around, reading, giggling, fuming, but not posting.
    My dislike for the board has increased in intensity with the arrival of some posters here who have just been on the board a year or more and are now in their 3000 or 4000 posts but whose posts have for the main part been insulting, antagonistic, and unChristian while professing to want to remain true to Christ and His ways, mostly those who think that a Calvinist is a spawn of hell.
     
  20. PJ

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    Here and accounted for, sir! Umm ... he's not me, though. :laugh:
     

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