What if you're a christian and still don't like people?

Every once in a while it all is worth while.

 

There is an old saying "Living with the Saints above o that will be Glory,
But living with the Saints Below now that's another
Story"

 

X, I would like to apologize to you for my lousy attitude the last time I posted on one of your questions. I would still like to converse with you and hope you will forgive me. I am truly sorry.
I have some thoughts on this subject of not liking people if you still want to hear from me.:saint:
Amy

 

I just live by Romans 12:18, "If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men." Including with people whom you don't enjoy being around.

 

Hard to believe, but most people are not shy and most people have never been seriously depressed. I don't think they really can understand what it means.

It actually might help; if not prozac, then one of the other ones (one size does not fit all). Cognitve behavior therapy is supposed to be one of the better therapies (training yourself to be aware of how your thoughts and behavior affect your moods and how you can change it) - more practical than most.

Uh, yeah, well, at least you have the good sense to see this. :laugh:

One thing I highly recommend is that you develop a sunny, pleasant expression and tone of voice - when people think you're cheerful, they treat you sooo much better which, in turn, makes you feel better about them. It may feel crazy at first, the disconnect between how you feel and how you appear, but it's a trick worth learning. The odd thing is that it can actually make you feel more pleasant and cheerful.

Good luck and God bless.

 

Extroverts should realize that many introverts are unable to do the things you recommend.

 

xdx, I agree that these forums are not the best place to come for advice. If you aren't involved in a fellowship of Christians anywhere, then I guess this is all you've got. You've received lots of good advice, survived ridicule, and you've received some awful advice. The only way you can sort it all out is by going to scripture. I see that you can cut and paste it rather well, but I'm afraid that your interpretation is a little shaky. Don't give up, though. Talk to someone in person. That will be a good step forward.

:jesus:

 

Extroverts already do the things I recommend - my advice is intended for introverts, especially those who are unusually sensitive to negative stimuli.

I found that I have an unfortunate tendency to scowl. When I spoke to people, they assumed I was scowling at them so they would be harsh towards me which hurt my feelings. Slightly raised eyebrows and a half smile gets a better response, but, as I said, it feels weird at first. It takes practice. Also people find a monotone off-putting, so faking cheer helps. These are things introverts can do even though it may not come naturally.

 

Personally, I love 'people'. :love2:

It's just some 'individuals' who somehow manage to annoy me. :BangHead:

:tongue3: :laugh:

Ed

 

Think of Lot. And how his soul was troubled.

I find it difficult too. Even Christians are hard to put up with but we must love one another.

David

 

Daisy gives good advice. It should not be ignored.

 

Hey, X,

I can dig it.

About five years ago, I lobbied God to have misanthropy (means you don't like people) made one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He said no, so I tried to bargain Him down to curmudgeonry (means you're a cranky old man). He still said no.

The truth is, I'd rather spend time with a good dog than most people I know so I was a little upset by His veto.

I'm going to try to slip it in as a rider in one of my future prayers.

Anyway, we're called to show love to people, not to like them.

That's actually easier than liking them.

My best advice is to start praying for them. If you don't love them when you start to pray for them, as you pray for them, the Holy Spirit will move on your heart to teach you how to love them.

 

We are in a dark time. Frightfully close to the end times. A lot of people are possessed of demons in my opinion and can't or aren't willing to do anything about it. That is why they are so terribly difficult to get along with. It may not be you, but it most assuredly is them however.

 

These "FEELINGS" as you stated are the works of the flesh, the old man, or carnal nature. I strongly suggest Repentance ! Galatians 5:16- Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.
Read the WHOLE book of Galatians, Pray and Fast !! Seek God with all of your heart. Please try and understand this: Your feelings and your emotions belong to you, as long as you keep blamming others for your non-repentant attitude, you'll always be mad and misserable. We can't help what others do to us, but we need to bring all our carnal, sinful thoughts to God as soon as possible.
Salvation means Deliverance from our present sinful state. This is a continuous process..... God is still working on us !! Also the Bible says in 1 John 4:20- If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? Many of us come to God with more baggage than others, but God is able.....
Pray and ask Him for this love that will even make you love your enemies.(Obey Acts 2:38) Seek God for something real.
God Bless You In Jesus Name David

 

If you lived on an island you probably would get eaten by an aligator. :laugh: :laugh: :wavey:

 

We don't have to have "lovey" feelings toward someone to "love" them. Love as described in the Bible is an action not a feeling. Here it is:
1 Corinthians
13:4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
13:5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
13:6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
13:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
13:8 Love never fails.
You can even "love" your enemies by being kind, patient and considerate. No special feelings required.

 

I pretty much agree with tp here.

Now I don't like very many people's religiousness or viewpoints on scripture, but that is a totally different issue than their person. The Lord says to "Love your neighbor" and, believing that, I don't have a problem with feelings of hatred toward them. I have gross disagreements with liberals on here for example, but I'd do what I could if any were in need and I could help, whether true brothers in Christ or not.

One of my friends is an avowed unbeliever, and is a disagreeable fellow to boot. He is an accomplished mechanic and I use his expertise whenever necessary. I've discovered that few of his customers like him, but I've developed a really good friendship with him. Before I was a believer I'd have never gotten past the first meeting. I see God at work all around him, in circumstances and expect a conversion.