My heart is so heavy today. I had one of those I wish I wasn't a pastor moments this morning. Got an email from a lady who said she and her family would not be coming back to my church because she had to guard her kids and keep them away from Calvinism. Yes I wear a Reformed jersey and play for team Calvin. I recently admitted this to a few church members who asked where I stood on the debate. It only took them 3 years to ask. In my integrity I have not conscientiously tried to indoctrinate people from the pulpit. I simply do my best to preach the word, being faithful to the text and pray that the people would respond accordingly. I share this to say that this family has been under my preaching off and on for 3 years; sometimes coming and speaking words of great encouragement to me afterwords. But now that they have learned what team I play for they are bailing out. My sincere question and source for frustration today is this: Why has Calvinism been so demonized? Why can't people who disagree with it get along? And to be fair...why can't some Calvinist get along with those on the other team? The perceptions that our debates and words create can be harmful.