Why such a hostile board? Where is the love?

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  1. jprieto

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    As Christians we are to (1) please God, and (2) love all that pleases God.

    This forum does a great job of clarifying biblical truths, and thus better equip believers to grow spiritually and win souls.

    And in my site I will mention and send believers this way.

    However, it makes me sad to join this forum just to be attacked and offended by Ed and Dr Bob.

    And all because I mentioned that I started an online social community for baptists, which serves a purpose other than that served in this forum.

    Now, let us reason together: who do you think is pleased?

    My site, like this one, promotes the Christian life -- do you think God is pleased that my effort in mentioning my site here resulted in offenses by Ed and Dr Bob?

    Bet you Satan is celebrating -- for now he has help in atacking me for my efforts.

    In the book of corinthians we are explained what HAVING LOVE details -- are their actions within the guidelines of Christian Love?

    Wow, so you mean to tell me that as a christian who created another christian site i am considered a competitor? And by mentioning it here it is considered spam?

    wow

    Do these two really think God is pleased with them?

    Why the hostility?

    Hey if they really believe in "spreading the word", why are they mad at me? Is my site not doing that?

    Why is it that I find it okay to refer people to this site, but it is a sin if in this site my site is mentioned?

    What kind of conduct is this?

    Look at Dr Bob post - does he not promote a link to a church? is that not spam also?

    Why are we fighting each other? Why not suport each other? Where is the love?

    People we are talking about a CHRISTIAN site!!!

    Does this smell hipocricy?

    Where is the pat on my back to loving God, using my talent for God, and spreading his love online?

    Why is it that I am offering peace, yet you guys are attacking me?

    What would Christ think?

    Why the aweful words from Dr Bob -- an administrator of this board. Is his comment the new way to express brotherly love? Is that what the pastor of his church teaches?

    Am I wrong?

    Were they reaching out to me in love? Or shooting offenses the new baptist way?

    If my post is wrong, are there no loving words to use to approach me and reason with?

    Smells funny to me?

    What say you?

    So Ed's concern of a promo for a Christian site is reasonable?

    What kind of board is this?!

    I got to pray -- this is wrong!!

    In what way is Ed and Dr Bob's reaction reflective of Christian conduct?

    PLEASE someone clear up my confusion.

    Thanks

    You mean to tell me that my site does not please God?
    you know it does.
    so why not love that which is pleasing to God.


    I wonder if you guys will close this thread too like you did my other thread -- something the onlien community is not tolerant of.
     
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  3. jprieto

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    Uhm... lots of rule violations

    Thanks for the link.


    I read the rules, and in rule ...

    #3 - ".....but be slow to offend"

    Its why I confused why an administrator would offend me.

    #4 - "No personal Attacks

    Why I'm confused even more that Dr Bob attacked me (read his reply).

    #7- "No Solicitation"

    Just as Dr Bob's posts promotes a link to a church, so does my (just one) post promotes a link to a Christian site. I never spread the promo all over the forum. God forbid.

    Anyone who discusses biblical doctrines in my site will be sent to this site, my site is about socializing and sharing, it is not aimed or equipped for indoctrination. This may be confusing to some but we DO support ANY site that teaches biblical truths. We do NOT find them to be in competition.

    Why are we talking as if we are competing is preaching the word of God? Did the disciples do that?

    Why can we all be friends and communicate in a respectful manner? Because I think, but Im not sure, that that is what Christ would have us do (but I could be wrong).

    Why Ed violate rule #3 ??

    Why Dr Bob violate rule #4 ??

    Okay here it goes.....

    I ask forgiveness for mentioning a site that promotes the christian faith, a site that is NOT, and never will be, in competition with this site. So if I have violated any rules of this forum (talking of a site that is of a christian nature) ....

    please forgive me



    notice how much I praise this site, now also notice how my site is attacked

    with whom is Christ better pleased?

    What say you?
     
  4. NaasPreacher (C4K)

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    I say this sounds something like Luke 11v11-12

    I am sorry that you had a bad start, but to start comparing yourself those hear based on a couple of post is not really fair.
     
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    There is lots of love on this site, and our mods do a great job trying to keep the spam off the boards. If you stay awhile, you'd see that.

    Why not try hanging around a while and getting to know us before trying to sell us on your particular site? Think about it. If the very first time you met someone, they tried to "sell" you something or convince you to patronize their business, wouldn't you be suspicious?

    By the way, if you're offended, try pm'ing the individual instead of publically drawing attention to it.
     
  6. EdSutton

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    Dr. Bob, like all the other 9K or so BB members will have to speak for himself.

    I do apologize if I offended you, for that was not my intention, in any way, and I likewise ask your forgiveness for an abrasive tone. BTW, I effectively asked for the Moderators to look at this, and did not "attack" you, FTR. Perhaps my response is because I have seen more than one individual show up in my three years around here that are primarily interested in getting word out about their site, or are "one-issue" individuals.

    Assuming I did misread this, let me apologize again, and welcome you to the Baptist Board. BTW, were the "link" merely listed in your tag line, and your initial post have been of the general 'Hello!' type, my response would have not been in the manner it was.

    Let me add that there is a difference in the 'tag-line' location of the link that Br. Bob has that is apparently for his church (Don't know, exactly - never clicked on it, nor on his "home page".), C4K has for "Roger's Reflections" (Don't know what he is reflecting - never clicked on it, nor on his "home page", either.), or the "Home page" location for Revmitchell (with whom I have locked horns a time or two in the past) that I did click on once, trying to find the location for a KY cousin who hibernates in Florida for the winter, to see if it were fairly close for them (It is a couple of hours away.), or the "home page" of bobbyd (Once again, I haven't been there.) or the "home page" of EdSutton (Oh, wait a minute. I don't even have one to click on.) and the text location that gave your site, which BTW, I did not click on either.

    There are hundreds of BB members who have links in their tag-lines, so I presume you could do the same, without any comment from me, anyway. I'll also add that there are "Fellowship Forums" to be found on the BB, as well as "Debate Forums," and fellowship seems to be what you are promoting. Why did you not post in there, out of curiosity?

    Again, I do intend for this to come across as a somewhat "kinder and gentler" post. Hopefully, I have succeeded in this.

    Ed
     
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    I posted in the other thread, but it did not show up, guess Dr. Bob closed it as I was typing.

    I had quoted you "Well, I'm looking forward to standing next to you on judgement day and hear you explain to God why you think I was doing a bad thing." I suggested that this is not a most Christian attitude either so you might want to look in a mirror.

    I tried your site and was hit with music so closed the tab to save my speakers. In my mind that is intrusive but I'd guess in your mind it was meant with no negative intended. We all offend others unintensionally.

    I trust you find this board of interest. If you really want to be put upon visit the political section :laugh: THEN you will know what "put upon" really means :thumbs:
     
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    I've been on bulletin boards for over 8 years and have found a common rule. Post on a board before you promote your own stuff. Post an intro - we'd like to get to know you. Get involved in conversations - we'd like to get to know you.

    When you post your very first post promoting your own site, we see that your interest is not Baptist Board or those here - but just getting traffic to your own site and some free advertising. That doesn't endear anyone to the poster.
     
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    It looks like the OP is nothing more than a self plug for his website while pointing the finger at the BB members. I though promoting your site was a violation of BB posting rules? That offends me... :)
     
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    You know what offends me webdog...

    YOUR AVATAR!!!

    YOU all look like the perfect couple!

    Just kiddin bro! (about the offending ... you DO look happy!)

    One day when I get in your neck of the woods, I am looking you up... we have to get together for lunch or something...

    OOOPs.. did I just mess this hostile thread up?
     
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    jprieto, I fail to see the hostility you think is evident in the closed thread. You didn't follow the rules and got your wrists slapped for it. Instead of railing about how hostile certain members and mods are, why not just accept the responsibility for your failure to follow the rules and then start following those rules? I fail to see what you think the BB membership at large should do about this supposed injustice.
     
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    Looks can be deceiving (don't let my wife see that :D)

    My wife commented how beautiful the view you have down there in WV (from the pictures you posted on facebook), so maybe we'll come down there. Our view consists of a freeway :(

    That picture was from a few years ago, btw...before kids. I was playing around with the scanner, and tried scanning a picture we had done at Dave and Busters (adult Chuckee Cheese). A 3 year old can age a person like you wouldn't believe :)
     
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    Well, come on down...

    I know, my picture in my avatar was 6 yrs ago... now I am grey, and older...
     
  14. HankD

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    There is more than one possible explanation for the "hostility".

    The probable explanation is that they were (mistakenly or otherwise, the Lord knows) under the impression that you have/had an agenda.

    Forgive them because they have been through a lot of that in the
    last 7-8 years, Some really venomous stuff. I remember that it almost shut this board down.

    There is this world's terminology for this kind of thing : "shellshock", "battle fatigue".

    Give them the benefit of the doubt for being good under shepherds.
    All (well almost all) will bear witness to that.

    On your own part jprieto remember that love has a balance.

    You ask "where is the love"?

    Allowing them the benefit of the doubt might expand your view of their love into a scriptural balance.

    Didn't Jesus say:

    Revelation 3:19 As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten:

    Showing us that the demonstration of love is not always hugs and kisses.

    Titus 1:13 This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith;​

    See, the promised effect of a rebuke? That is not to say that you are not of sound faith but to show you what motivates those who have authority here.

    Again J, give them the benefit of the doubt that their concern was for the health of those gathered in His name.

    Welcome to you brother.


    HankD
     
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    Not to mention that the sign on the road outside your house now says BUMP :)
    (I'm glad they put BUMPs on my residential street, I started swollowing everrtime i hit the ditch /the sign said DIP/ I hate the tase of Scoal :()

    I first was on a Bulletin Board (bb) in July 1984. I celebrated my 24th year on bbs in July 2008.

    Back in '84 we had a term TROLL that we applied.
    Since TROLL has changed, but the earlier term was better.

    TROLL 1984 - A person trolling for a FLAME.
    here TROLL means a person who drags a bait in the water trying to catch something. A FLAME is a nasty reply (like the Secondary Ed did on post #2 in the closed ). So that makes the opening post a TROLL post. The Second String ED is a level headed guy who makes a lot of good sense frequently and for a long time.

    TROLL 2008 - a mean person who sets in wait under a bridge to probably eat little kids

    Recommendation to other posters about the TROLL:

    DO NOT FEED THE TROLL.

    Recommendations for the TROLL:

    1. READ before you WRITE (the prime directive of bbs)
    2. check on google:
    --- search for:


    "prime directive" site:baptistboard.com


    This will give you discussions of 'prime directive' that appear on the BB (Baptist Board)
    4. if you are selling something on BB, you need to buy ads

    Now, I know the prime directive of bbs: so I found out that the TROLL is all about. I found out there are two posts on his bb. I found out that free posting is very restricted and even free viewing is restricted. It is a mercenary operation. I was*the fifth member.

    * Note 'WAS' means PAST TENSE, already done

    But I didn't tell everybody here what I know but wrote the ptb (powers that be).

    BTW, the rules say we can't use a person's name in the title of a thread. The threads aren't suppost to be about posters but about matters of interest to Baptists. So really except for the HOWDY Forum, we aren't even supposted to be discussing posters. Well, the prayer threads we can talk about posters so we can pray for them.
     
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    As usual, I pose a second opinion:

    It is always bad when a poor LION
    falls headlong into a Den of DANIELS
    :wavey:
     
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    I admin a computer help forum. When someone comes on and posts up a link to their site, we don't ask questions, we don't argue and debate... we ban on sight. That is called spam, and it is dealt with very, very quickly. The mod team of this site is gracious enough to not do that.

    The BB is a great place. If you want rough, you will find it. If you want fellowship, its running over with it. Coming to the BB is like visiting the in-laws... you can come to have a good time, or you can come to have a bad time.

    Personally, I like the good ones.
     
  18. Amy.G

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    Brother Ed, Tim's sign does not say BUMP. It says BMUP. You are evidentally unable to read messed up spelling. :laugh:
     
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    Whta aer yuo tlakign abuot?
     
  20. Amy.G

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    BMUPS. :laugh:
     
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