Working Women

Discussion in '2003 Archive' started by mark, Oct 8, 2003.

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Wives staying home is:

  1. Bibical-based

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  2. a preference

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  3. other, please explain

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  1. mark

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    Many Baptists would be in favor of wives staying home... not being employed outside the home. Is this a Biblical-based position or a preference?
     
  2. Jailminister

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    Mark, this has been discussed before, so good luck.

    Titus 2:5
     
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    Whoever doesn't believe in a single woman with kids working, pm me for my address so you can support me so I can stay home all the time. I look forward to your generous donation.
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    My wife works outside the home. She works at a Christian bookstore about one mile from our home. I would rather she did not have to work, but because of health problems and other reasons we have no choice. Our youngest child is seventeen.

    I still believe it is better if a mother stays home with their children, if they can. Unfortunately, many times it is not possible.
     
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    Gina, I though that was strange too. What is a single mother supose to do otherwise.
    Terry, I would love to work at a christian book store. It would probably be one of the few jobs my husband would let me have.
     
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    I think it is all about priorties...the biblcial principles are to be home keepers,love your children and husband...this is a biblical principle to keep your priorities on being a wife and mother...training children,taking care of the home is to be the women's domain and main emphasis in life.How can this be done if she works most of the day? If the children are older,there is more time to do other things.

    A single mom with young children should be with them as much as possible...I believe the church should financially take care of them,so she could be with the children,esp if the husband leaves them or dies. I realize most churches are not doing this,so women are forced to work to pay for food and shelter.

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    My wife is an accountant and has worked all during our marriage and my ministry. We had no problems raising our girls, and it never interfered with ministry.

    It can be done, and there is nothing wrong with it. Keeping the home belongs to both partners, whilst the man is the head of the family. If you think women should be kept at home then let's not waste a lot of time and money getting an education.

    The important thing is NOT neglecting the children, and keeping one's priorities in order. If money and wealth is the only motive, I would be suspect.

    Staying home might have been a good thing and the only thing in biblical times; the customs were quite different.

    Cheers,

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  8. Dr. Bob

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    Am I missing a salient point here - where is it written that a woman cannot be a 'keeper at home' AND still be a 'Proverbs 31 working woman'?

    My wife certainly is.

    This is a false dichotomy.
     
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    I can do all that and work outside the home too. My children are all married and my husband works.

    What is the need for me to be here when he is not?

    I am only workin part-time now, but I have worked 40 hour weeks and still managed to meet my responsibilites at home.

    It's called multi-tasking. :D
     
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    Amen brother.
     
  11. Mickes

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    This question is brought to me often, and I always here titus 2:5 how a women is to be at home, and the church is to take care of widows and there childern. I do belive it is better for the family with the wife at home, but this cannot always be. As for the churchs role with widows does not 1 Tim 5:9 teach a young widow should be able to provide for her family. Hence she would have to work.
     
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    My children were grown when their dad died, so I was not faced with taking care of small children, but I would have never thought of asking my church to help support me. If I had asked anyone, it would have been a member of my family.

    My son said that he would take care of me when his Dad died and his wife has always wanted to build an apartment for me. I have always said, not yet, I can take care of myself. Of course, I think my son is glad to give his responsibilities to my husband now. [​IMG]

    Oh I got off the subject a little. I guess it should be another thread. Should the church take care of single mothers? I don't know.
     
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    My take is this.... You must do what the Lord leads you to do. If you need to work to provide for your family, then do it to glorify Him... If He allows you to stay at home then do that to glorify Him.
    If you choose to work, then do it to glorify Him.

    The point is this... He has shown illustrations where women have worked outside the home and been blessed ... and women who have stayed at home and been blessed.. We must try to discern His will in our own lives and then do it for His glory. In all things Glorify Him.
     
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    Mickes, I don't knoww what 1 Timothy 5:9 has to do with this so let's put it into context:
    1Ti 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

    1Ti 5:9 Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man,

    1Ti 5:10 Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.

    1Ti 5:11 But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry;

    1Ti 5:12 Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith.

    1Ti 5:13 And withal they learn [to be] idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.

    1Ti 5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

    1Ti 5:15 For some are already turned aside after Satan.


    That does not give any freedom to do as you suggested.
    Now as for as the question of single women not working, let's look at the question.
    I can find no biblical reason to make it different. In our world today we may say it is impossible, but what does God say.

    Now as for as Titus 2;5 and Proverbs 31. they are compatable. The Proverbs 31 woman is still working under the headship of her husband. In other words she is not punching a clock and placing herself under the authority(headship0 of another person.
     
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    I am glad to see the input here. We (my church) are struggling with this. We are having a lot of marriages that are on the rocks and one of the most common characteristics is that both the husband and wife are working. Don't kill the messenger, that is just how it is. In some cases it could be argued that the family "needs" more money. That is questionable. Most people in America have all we NEED, it is keeping up with neighbors that makes us all chase the dollar at all costs. That being as it may, I wonder how much we are will to sacrifice to keep our families in tact. I don't think very much. As families we aren't willing to lower our standard of living and as churches we are not willing to step in and help a family that is struggling so the wife could stay home. Terry mentioned it being necessary for his wife to work. I think the church is failing here, she shouldn't HAVE to work. Perhaps, there are churches who would be willing to help, but pride gets in the way. People are too proud to take help from the church and the church doesn't want to embarass them by asking.
    One last question.... if a man in your church, member and regular attender left his wife and 2 children, lost his job and isn't adequately providing his wife and children.... what should be done? Church discipline would have already taken place and he's been put out of the church until he repents (all the Biblical steps were taken). Who is responsible? Should the wife go to work and the kids be put in daycare (one under the age of 1)? Should the husband's parents, who would be active church members take over support of the family? Or should the church take over support of the family? What do you think?
     
  16. Jailminister

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    Mark queried:
    1)Who is responsible?
    The husband/father is still responsible. if he refuses then it is the resposible of the wife's father or brother or nearset living male relative. If all that is unavailable, then the church kicks in.
    2)Should the wife go to work and the kids be put in daycare (one under the age of 1)?
    No
    3)Should the husband's parents, who would be active church members take over support of the family?
    That would be acceptable.
    4)Or should the church take over support of the family?
    When all else fails, yes.
     
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    My views are that the Bible does say that the wife is to be a keeper at home not just a keeper of the home. The problem is that we seem to always want to much so it ends up that both spouses have to work.
    I also think that we should strive to stay home even after our children are in scholl ar grown because it is still our job to see after our homes and our husbands.

    God didn't give us our children to stick them in a day care or give them to a relative to raise while we work. I do realize that there are some things that happen to force women to work such as there husband's health or they get divorced and then alot of times they have no choice. This is JMHO
     

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